Prioritizing Love

“He, who has no attachments, can really love others, for his love is pure and divine” — Shreemat Bhagwat Geeta

Why is Love the most quoted or desired aspect these days? We have realized that the root cause of the ever increasing and seemingly uncontrollable, human misery, is lack of love for each other.

Lack of love for each other, being inconsiderate, has happened over many many generations and now is deeply rooted in majority of the human population.

True love, is about giving needs and wants of people, we love, priority, over our own needs and wants.

To my mind, the best example of love is “motherly” love.

Loving a person, essentially means prioritizing that person’s needs and wants, over the needs and wants of anybody else, including self, at the same time, ensuring that it is not at the sake of self or others.

So yes, love, which implies consideration of or for others, being sensitive, while we work on our needs and wants would lead to solving the problem of human misery and create an amazingly wonderful world for all.

We understand “love” better when we realize the opposite of “love” is not “hate” but actually is “being selfish” or “being indifferent” and the opposite of “selfish” is not “unselfish” but is “loving and caring and understanding”.

Just like “love”, selfishness, is not understood in the right way. Thinking of self is not selfish. Wanting a better life for us and our family is not selfish.

Being selfish is prioritizing our needs and wants at the sake of others. Complete and utter disregard, being insensitive for others, on the path to attain all our needs and wants, is selfish.

Everyone’s needs and wants are different and quite often contradict each others needs and wants.

It implies that we cannot, possibly love, everyone, at the same instant. We could love everyone, at the same time and equally, only and only if, everyone needed exactly the same thing to be done, at the same instant. And in that situation we would not need to prioritize, as we would just need to do, the only required thing.

Loving some one, actually means not loving others, at least, at that instant.

When we work on multiple things, we frequently evaluate the priority of the tasks that we need to work on and then work on the top priority task. Similarly, we prioritize who we love, based on the time and situation.

Allowing people to break rules is not love and that would not help humanity. Even a loving mother has to ensure that the child adheres to certain rules, to grow a disciplined and a caring child. Else, love would lead to making a person weak and further to weakening of our entire existence.

Love, is a tall ask.

To be able to love others, we need to make ourselves strong and content, we need a healthy body and sound mind.

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