Prioritize Rest, Set Boundaries, and Rise Above Haters

Recently, we've had a slew of really powerful guests. As always, we like to recap some of the common themes between them. And that’s exactly what we did on episode 62 of the Embracing “Only” podcast.?

Our first Real Talk of 2024!

In the activism space, sometimes we forget to look after ourselves. There is always more that needs to be done and another battle that needs to be fought. It is not your responsibility to fight every battle. And along the way, there are going to be haters. How do you deal with them?

That’s what we’re diving into in this newsletter.

Listen to the episode or scroll down to read one of the highlights of our conversation ↓

Prioritizing Rest

You should not feel guilty for focusing on yourself first. Taking time for actual rest amid all your other responsibilities is critical.

As women, we need to build rest into our goal-setting because we are constantly called on for extra housework across the board.

This may be a challenge for elder Millennials and Boomers, and maybe even some of the Gen Xers because we tend to attach our self-worth to our output. There should be times for crushing your goals, but there should also be time for rest.

“Your brain physically needs the rest. And what happens when you give your mind a time to rest, a time to relax, a time to reflect, your creativity actually gets better. Your productivity actually goes up when you build in timely rest into what you're doing.” - Olivia Cream

Wherever you are in life, you need to be intentional and build space for yourself and for rest. How do you do this?

Building an Intentional Life

The challenge is that we don't want to sit down and ask ourselves these important questions. We want to keep in motion.

Identify what it is that you don’t like about your workday or how you are functioning and then create solutions for them. You can design your day in a way that works for you. Ask yourself what you want your week to look like.

“It is the most liberating thing because [...] that has created space for me. [...] It's very clear what opportunities I'm going to say no to. It's very clear, so I don't even chase those things anymore.” - Archita Fritz

It is easier to say no, so you need to set boundaries.

“Figure out what you want to do, go figure out the problems that are plaguing you today, set about creating a solution for them, and then stick to it. We talk about this all the time. You have to honor your nos so you can embrace your yeses.” - Olivia Cream

Saying yes to everything does nothing but slow you down and distract you from getting to where you need to be so you have the maximum impact on this earth.?

Dealing with Haters and Exploring Your Triggers

Almost every woman that we have had the pleasure of talking to has had a hater somewhere along the way.

There are always going to be haters when you are on the path to something big.?

“When a hater triggers you, you need to sit down and figure out what's wrong with you.” - Olivia Cream

A hater is simply being who they are, and they are not going to change. By spending time questioning why a hater is doing something, you are giving them your power. They are draining you.

Whatever the reason is that you are focusing on this inconsequential hater, you need to sit with that and figure that out for yourself. But it is YOU that something is wrong with.

By doing this we can minimize the effect that haters have on our lives because we realize we can control it.?

“The only thing we know, besides death, is that they will be haters as we grow and rebuild.” - Archita Fitz

To hear the full conversation on the Embracing “Only” Podcast, scroll up and hit play – or click here and tune into episode 62.

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Women – particularly women of color – are constantly bombarded with societal and systemic hurdles that they face professionally with no balance in solutions.?

News, media, and coaching tend to focus on our differences and obstacles but don’t provide thought-provoking solutions to help people regain control of their lives and find direction.?

The Embracing “Only” Podcast seeks to provide a community for women to share their lived experiences and not feel alone in their journey to claim their power and purpose in the communities they seek to serve, transform, and impact.