Principles of Communication: Think, Speak and Discuss

Normal human existence implies interpersonal communication. If we fail to learn how to effectively communicate with others, we will fail in relationships, work, and life. Whether we engage with family, church members, or colleagues, we must recognize that effective communication precedes health in all aspects of human existence. Here are some timeless principles that can guide us in this essential skill.

First, You Have to Think

Before words spill from our lips, thoughts must form in our minds. This foundational step requires us to use the brain God gave us so that our communication springs from having worked out our own thoughts. Time spent in thoughtful reflection empowers us to communicate with wisdom and purpose. Good days begin with an optimistic frame of mind which comes by good thinking, by developing your own good thoughts.?

You have to discipline yourself to develop such thoughts proactively, rather than passively because frequently, something will happen that seems to upend your carefully laid out plans. Especially when this happens, you must actively prevent your thoughts from jumping off the rails reactively.

This ability implies anticipating what might likely throw a wrench in your plans. In order to benefit from successful principles, you have to believe the right truths about them. And you will never believe the right truths unless you create thoughts in alignment with them.

Voicing Your Thoughts

Once you have taken the time to ponder ideas from others, media etc. and integrate them into your own mental map of life, the next step is to share them. This can be challenging, especially when your audience might hold differing views. Whether it's discussing a new idea with a colleague or sharing a personal insight with your spouse or family member, voicing your thoughts is essential. It's through this exchange that we build understanding and connection.

The Risk of Disagreement

Speaking up often involves the risk of disagreement. It's a natural part of communication. Disagreement doesn't have to be a battleground or a contest. If we consider our interactions with others contests to win a prize for the best thinking we have missed the opportunity to put our thoughts to the test. Having the best thoughts is the goal rather than deciding on a thought or position and defending it to the death. If you are afraid of being wrong, you will never grow, you will adopt the thinking of those you admire without testing those thoughts. By being open to differing perspectives, we open ourselves to new insights and solutions.

Embracing Disagreement for Problem Resolution

Disagreement should not be feared but welcomed as a beneficial process. When you approach conflicts with an open mind and a heart willing to understand, you make effective problem resolution possible. It's in these moments that you find creative solutions that will strengthen relationships because if your relationships can’t weather disagreement and even conflict, they are weak and eventually will fail. Failed relationships always imply unilateral or bi-lateral failed character.??

The Consequence of Silence

Failing to speak about difficulties means forfeiting the growth and resolution that come through conflict. When we avoid tough conversations, we miss out on the chance to resolve issues and strengthen bonds. Silence might seem easier, but it often leads to unresolved tensions and missed opportunities for growth.

Testing Your Thinking in Group Discussions

Group discussions are fertile grounds for testing our ideas. By voicing our opinions, we invite feedback that sharpens our thinking. Proverbs 27:17 says, "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." Our thoughts become clearer and more refined through the collective wisdom of the group.

The Necessity of Organizing Your Thoughts

If we never speak up, we lack the impetus to organize our thoughts coherently. Articulating our ideas requires us to structure them clearly, making them more impactful. This process not only benefits our listeners but also enhances our own understanding and confidence.

Effective communication is a blend of thoughtful reflection, courageous expression, and an openness to disagreement. By embracing these principles, we can develop deeper connections, resolve conflicts, and grow in each aspect of our being spirit, soul and body. So I encourage you to think deeply, speak boldly, and welcome the enriching process of disagreement.

What are your thoughts? Let me know if there are any adjustments or additional points you feel should be included!

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