Pride Month

Normally, I keep politics and social commentary to myself on here because I strive for unbiased professionalism in most (if not all) aspects of my career. At the same time, one of my personal tenets is “if you don’t stand for something, then you’ll fall for anything.” Diversity is something I strongly hold to, and I’ve had the benefit of working at companies that and worked with those who value and practice it. Having friends and family in the LGBTQ+ community, and as the father of a mixed-race child, it’s not enough to stand by where many face discrimination, hostility, and even violence. This is even more profound during Pride Month – a time where everyone should be able to safely and openly celebrate what they are and who they love without others using that as an excuse to harm them.

We live in a time where emotions are high and resolves are being tested. Sadly, a lot of communication, especially through social media, is often not about conveying messages and ideas, but who can yell the loudest, trend the most, or get in that “final word on the subject” zinger. We rely on ideologies and teachings we grow up with as the foundation of our personal beliefs and self-identification, and are influenced by our sociopolitical environments, too. Many hold tightly to their beliefs, shunning any dissent, no matter how wise or informed, as inherently wrong or worthless. Others use cherished beliefs as an ultimate authority, judging anyone who’s different. Faith and belief are beautiful gifts that can provide insight, comfort, and peace. I question anyone who uses them to spread ignorance or inflict harm.

In our journeys, one of the harder aspects we all face is the fine art of meeting new people, dating, and building relationships with them. Many of us have struggled with and complained about the intricacies of meeting someone worthwhile just for few joyful hours, to say nothing of the rest of our lives. We have whole genres of literature and movies dedicated to this. The challenge is enough without complicating it with the unsolicited opinions of others.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again. When it comes to who we love, there are only three questions that matter:

1. Are you happy?

2. Are you healthy?

3. Are you safe?

Nothing else matters, period.

Unless they're a trusted friend or family member who sees an issue with one of those questions, then they need to mind their own damn business. When we decide who and what makes us happy, we accept that those moments of self-awareness and life choices have consequences. Some are good and some not so much. It’s hard enough to work through the tougher realities we face without someone making life Hell because they have an axe to grind with anyone who’s different.

As Pride Month begins, I encourage – no, I challenge others to be active and positive in this socially and politically charged climate. Don’t merely draw the line with a passive “I’m not racist” or “I’m not a bigot.” As they say, “The only thing evil needs to triumph is for good people to do nothing.” So, take a step outside your comfort zone. Attend a Pride parade – Hell, march in one. Have coffee with member of the Christian, Hebrew, Islamic, Hindu faiths or an Atheist and have constructive conversations with them. Attend a church service, Mass, or Jum'ah. Try meditating. Spend an evening at a biker bar or swingers club. For the love of God, travel. The point is that uncomfortable feeling of stepping into the unknown is blissfully transitory, but the new awareness and experiences will follow you the rest of your life. Think of it like a vaccine shot for the soul – a moment of discomfort, but a lifetime of healthy new perspectives.

And to everyone celebrating – be safe and have a great time.