The Price of Shame

Shame is a complex emotion, because it can have many sources. Growing up in a dysfunctional household can make the expression of emotions difficult and hiding the shame becomes your best form of defence. Experiences that made you feel left out or abandoned can create cellular memories that are triggered when the same patterns of behaviour are entered.

You may not know how to love or be loved in the absence of a role model who showed you how. You might seek love in the wrong places, leaving you with a lasting shadow of shame.

These feelings of shame can be activated when we are looking to do something that might 'expose' us as someone we might not truly align with, because we don;t feel we deserve it or we have a lack of self worth. When we're making bold statements in our life about the changes that we want to make, shame can rear it's ugly head as a way of keeping us safe, self sabotage or on the path of self destruction.

If you want to go right into it, then past life experiences where you were a healer, a sayer or someone who was casting spells and you felt the raw shame of being exposed and the consequences, which left a long lasting impression on your DNA.

Shame and Stress

Shame can often be mistaken for fear and can also show up with the same symptoms as stress or fear. Feeling anxious, nervous feelings in the stomach and impulsive reactions to certain situations. Shame sits in emotional centre of the limbic system, responsible for the emotions and it can trigger the fight, flight or freeze response. Our bodies can find it difficult to distinguish between a real sense of threat and that which is triggered by a similar event.

Shame and the self

On a journey of self discovery, when we start to come face to face with the self, we may feel ashamed of the real person we are, without knowing why. At some point we are asked to explore where these shameful experiences and feelings are generated from. They may stop us from being open to experiences of love, expansion, personal growth and connection to the self.

Shame and healing

First of all we want to identify whether the emotion that we are experiencing is shame, allowing ourselves to experience it and bring it to the forefront of our consciousness. Then we can identify the root cause and look at shifting the energy, emotions and circumstances that exist for it to be triggered.

A gentle and self compassionate approach to healing can help us to release deep rooted patterns that are holding us back from our true potential and purpose.

Take full responsibility for your own wellbeing and work with someone who can understand how to manage the emotional responses.

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