Pressure Unreleased Will Eventually Turn into Shame: The Hidden Cost of Suppressing Stress
Chad Sanschagrin
Executive Coach to C-Suite Professionals | Expert in Sales Growth | International Keynote Speaker and Author of Keep Telling Yourself (12/17/24)
In today’s fast-paced world, pressure is a constant companion for many of us. We face deadlines, expectations, and challenges that push us to our limits. While some pressure can be motivating, the way we handle it often determines whether it becomes a source of strength or a seed of shame.
The Nature of Pressure
Pressure, in its essence, is a response to external demands. It’s that feeling we get when our boss sets an ambitious target, when we juggle multiple responsibilities, or when we strive to meet our own high standards. It’s a natural part of life, and to some extent, it’s unavoidable. However, how we respond to it can make all the difference.
The Dangers of Suppressing Pressure
Many people believe that the best way to handle pressure is to suppress it. They think that by ignoring their stress or bottling up their emotions, they can remain strong and capable. Unfortunately, this approach often backfires. Suppressing pressure doesn’t make it go away; instead, it builds up, like steam in a sealed container. Eventually, that container will burst, and the consequences can be severe.
The Transformation from Pressure to Shame
When we suppress pressure, we also suppress our natural responses to it. We hide our struggles, deny our vulnerabilities, and put on a brave face. Over time, this can lead to feelings of isolation and inadequacy. We start to believe that we are the only ones struggling, that everyone else is coping better, and that we must be failing in some way.
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This internalized belief can quickly turn into shame. Shame is the painful emotion arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper, or ridiculous done by oneself or another. It’s a feeling that eats away at our self-worth and confidence. When pressure turns into shame, it can have devastating effects on our mental health, relationships, and overall well-being.
Breaking the Cycle: Embracing Vulnerability
The antidote to this destructive cycle is vulnerability. By acknowledging and expressing our feelings of pressure, we can prevent them from morphing into shame. Here are a few strategies to help manage pressure in a healthy way:
Transforming Pressure into Growth
By addressing pressure head-on, we can turn it into a catalyst for personal and professional growth. Open communication and proactive stress management lead to resilience and a more positive outlook. Remember, it’s not about avoiding pressure, but about handling it in a way that promotes well-being and success.
Let’s commit to breaking the cycle of suppression and shame. Together, we can create environments where acknowledging and managing pressure is encouraged, leading to healthier, more productive lives.