The Pressure of Side A: When Smiles Hide Hustle and Heartbreak
Doug Thorpe, ACC,CMC,CEC,MBA
Building. Outstanding. Businesses. | Executive Leadership | Master Coach & Advisor | Podcast Host with 1MM+ listens | Entrepreneurship by Acquisition
Have you ever scrolled through social media and felt a pang of inadequacy? That perfectly curated vacation photo, the triumphant promotion announcement, the glowing couples selfie – a carefully crafted "Side A" of someone's life, shining bright against your own messy, uncertain "Side B". We all get caught in the comparison trap, but the truth is, Side B is where the real story lives.
Side A thrives on the highlights. It's the polished resume, the viral tweet, the perfectly frosted birthday cake. It's the "I woke up like this" glow when, in reality, it took 45 minutes and a small village of products. We portray ourselves as effortlessly successful, perpetually happy, because that's the narrative we're told to embrace. Struggle? Failure? Doubt? Those are banished to the dusty corners of Side B, the unseen underbelly of our existence.
But living in Side A's shadow is exhausting. It's constantly chasing an illusory ideal, a curated reality that masks the grit and grind of everyday life. It's silencing the internal screams of frustration and fear, hiding the tears that stain the script behind the picture-perfect smile.
The problem isn't the existence of Side A – it's the pressure to be it, all the time. We forget that everyone has a Side B, a collection of anxieties, setbacks, and moments of quiet despair. We forget that the struggle is universal, the path rarely linear, and the journey often messy.
So, how do we break free from the tyranny of Side A? Here's a radical idea: let's embrace the raw beauty of Side B. Share the late nights fueled by coffee and desperation, the job applications met with rejection, the dreams deferred and the plans gone awry. Let's acknowledge the stumbles and celebrate the small victories, the unexpected detours that lead us to uncharted territories.
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Vulnerability isn't weakness; it's strength. Sharing our Side B stories isn't admitting defeat; it's forging a human connection, reminding each other that we're all navigating this wild ride together. It's about whispering, "It's okay to not be okay," and knowing that someone will whisper back, "I understand."
Because the truth is, Side B is where the magic happens. It's in the resilience we build from overcoming challenges, the lessons learned from failure, the unexpected joys that blossom amidst the chaos. It's where we find our true selves, stripped bare of filters and facades, flawed and beautiful in our messy humanness.
So, let's break free from the pressure of Side A. Let's embrace the imperfections, the breakdowns, the messy realities that make up our human tapestry. Let's tell our Side B stories, not with shame, but with courage and compassion. In doing so, we might just create a world where vulnerability is celebrated, struggle is normalized, and Side B becomes the most beautiful story of all.
Remember, your Side B journey is as valid, powerful, and inspiring as any perfectly packaged Side A. Share it, own it, and let it be your beacon of truth in a world obsessed with curated perfection. And who knows, maybe your vulnerability will spark someone else's courage to do the same, weaving a tapestry of shared experiences that's far more beautiful than any filtered facade could ever be.
Let's celebrate the messy humanity of Side B, together.
Absolutely love this perspective! As Ralph Waldo Emerson once said - What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. Remember, embracing your authentic self is the key to genuine success. ???? #BeReal #StayTrue
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10 个月Side B when shared can have a domino effect and fuel so many who may be afraid to either show up or put in the work.
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11 个月Well and thoroughly said Doug???? social media and its illusions can be a trap if we’re not careful.