Precision of Language is Important

Let’s talk a bit about language. The words we use, how we use them, and what message they convey. In Lois Lowry’s book (also made into a movie), The Giver, the people in the community practice what they call “precision of language.” They observe this practice, and hold each other accountable to it, to avoid confusion when communicating. This confusion leads to miscommunication which leads to misunderstanding which can often lead to violence (either of words, emotions, or actions).

The short of it . . . words matter. Word choice matters. The words we use and how we group them into sentences, comments, and remarks carry meaning . . . and consequences.

We’ve all heard it said: Say what you mean and mean what you say. Taking care to use the appropriate words to deliver the message you want to convey does not only benefit the person you’re talking to (it can eliminate all kinds of confusion and uncertainty), but it also benefits you (for the words we use and messages we convey reflect either negatively or positively on us).

Here are just a few things to keep in mind when communicating to improve your “precision of language” and communicate more clearly.????

• Do all you can to not communicate when you’re in an emotionally heightened state. Being emotionally charged impedes our judgment, clouds our awareness (of self and others), and often has us self-focused. Emotions and rationality rarely complement one another. Give yourself some time to calm down before delivering a message. It will allow you to think more clearly and rationally about not only what to say, but how to say it. The only exception here is when you need to tap into emotion to fuel the courage that may be needed to deliver a difficult message. Sometimes, emotion gives us strength we wouldn't have otherwise.
• Avoid absolutes like “never” and “always.” Rarely do they apply in real life, and they serve no purpose in communication except to exaggerate and confuse. Note: Absolutes are often used when we are emotionally charged.
• Be aware of how your message may be received. Remember that words have meaning and carry an emotional impact all their own. Once a message is delivered, it often can’t be taken back. Say what you mean. You get one chance; make it count.
• When writing, think about what you want to convey before typing the words. Think about how the message will be interpreted minus the benefit of tone, inflections, and body language. Written communication is 100% about the words. Be careful, be precise.

Your word choice and how you deliver your message is a direct reflection of who you are, of your character. Ask yourself: Do these words, does this message, reflect who I am and who I want to be?

We all miss the mark here; we all lack precision of language at times. When you communicate inappropriately and convey a message that does not reflect your true character, acknowledge it, own it, apologize, and say, “Can I please try that again?”