Practising the art of not giving a f**k

In a world filled with gaslighters, narcissist and just in general if you have a different opinion to others it can trigger the 'I am a sensitive prick' within syndrome'.

This for me was more highlighted during lockdown, were social media was filled with people stating their views, opinions on the subject and if not agreed they was either a conspiracy theorist, or they was blocked all in the sake of not sharing the same views as others.

Regardless of having an opinion, right down to taking action you will always have someone that will try and dictate to you what you should be doing, how to think or act.

Just like you, I bet that you have been placed in a situation were someone has tried to dictate to you how to act, gaslighted you into thinking you have this and that personality traits; in all respect it has been their faults imposed on you and some unfortunately begin to believe this.

Firstly, without even realising it you are handing over your authentic self, with it your unique qualities you possess, and given it to others to dictate your happiness.

No one has a right to judge you, unfortunately a lot of people feel the right to do so, and the majority of these people are the ones who can't get their shit together.

When I use the title for this newsletter, ' Practising the art of not giving a f**k'....... I am not stating to not give a fuck about your children, family and loved ones.

It's about not giving a fuck about other people negative comments that have nothing to do with your personal growth, nor your happiness.

My point is everyone seems to have an opinion or have become an expert on a subject.

I have a fitness background, and I have seen endless posts from wannabe fitness trainers with their un-biased advised which quiet frankly has nothing to do with an individuals results. No one talks about body types, I rest my case!

Practising the art of not giving a f**k, is merely trusting your own intuition, needs. It is about letting go and stop trying so bloody hard in investing too much energy in things that don't serve you for the long run or you have no control over.

The Logic is this:

Once you begin practicing the art of not giving a fuck, you look within you and acknowledge what needs to be corrected.

Caring too much about futile things is a sign that you don't have anything better going on in your life, this in return makes you a target for gaslighters, narcissist to users to come into your life and place you off course.

Take it easy on yourself and remember setbacks can be growth for you, if you just stop resisting and allow the pain to guide you to strengthening that emotional muscle so as it can align back to the place it was meant to be.

Once this has been done, you are able to accept and understand failures are teachings and below I will give you three examples:

Pursue failures and not success: When you recognise your failures you begin to think outside of the box instead of placing yourself in one because that's all you know. You recognised where you went wrong and begin acknowledging the present moment you are in and begin planning a different strategy to the one that has failed you.

Pain and not pleasure: Pain should be felt, that way you strengthen your emotional muscles and understand the right pleasures to what make you tick. Once this is done, automatically you become resistant to pain and you grow your skills as to avoid further pain, in return you clear space for pleasures that truly serve you.

Failures eventually lead to success: Once you see your flaws and you are on the path, naturally you confront negativity, which leads to growth within you and the direction you need to take in order to get success.

You as an individual have the right to explore your weaknesses, so don't be afraid to take baby steps, as I promise you this no one but you can and will do this.

If you are waiting for someone to change, a situation to turn in your favour and it has taken too long. Stop wasting any more of your time and focus on your needs. Fall in love with yourself again and switch that fuck it attitude on.

If you are a parent, this is also a good example to teach your children, so as they learn to be independent and learn that in life sometimes things won't pan out the way they want it to.

Alternatively, it is also a great teaching to understand setbacks are not failures and to act positive at all times.

Lastly, there is your health at stake and we all know stress can lead to other health problems which you can do without.

People will always have their views, opinions and will try to impose their beliefs on you, look deeper, I bet you this; they are not comfortable in the skin the live in, that's their problem not yours.

How to practice the art of not giving a f**k

• Understand you have no control of other people & situations, your focus is your path.
• Stress will not get you no where instead, it will have impact on your health
• Understand that you have control of your thoughts, most likely you have conditioned your mindset in keeping you in a box rather than being free.
• What is meant for you will be, so learn to accept and grow rather waiting.
• Learn the highest validation is your and only yours.
• Never expect as you set yourself up for disappointment.
• Understand that your actions are crucial so never wait for others approval but your own.
• Be mindful of your own insecurities and don't them place you in a vulnerable position for others to abuse.
• Take responsibility for your actions, thoughts being you is a A-game so grow it to the best it can be.
• Understand some will look down at you and some will respect you for who you are. Learn to give time to those that appreciate you.
• Don't avoid rejection instead, learn to handle it and at the same time say no when necessary.
• Have some time out even 10min a day will do, just to gather your thoughts and place the reality of what serves you best.
• Understand people who are highly opinionated and love to call out your faults, step back and know they have not corrected their own, that is their problem not yours.
• Don't base your life and reactions on your emotions.
• Understand you have control of your happiness and no one else.

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