The Power of Words!

Did you know that your words have power! King Solomon of the Bible in his proverbs said 'Death and Life are in power of the tongue.... There has been much written about the power of tongue or power of words or power of language since last 3000 years. However, the psychology which is fairly modern has come to the understanding of the importance of language in human behavior and performance. Language is more powerful than we can imagine. Words can move nations, give and take away life. Language well articulated can be magical and otherwise disastrous. Most of our great reformers have been excellent orators and writers knowing the art of presenting their thoughts and their world of reality, creatively through words. Martin Luther King the great reformer and orator moved the masses by his inspiring speech of freedom and brought one of the most powerful social and psychological change that redefined how we behave and move towards the developed world. Consider these statements, “For disable people” and “For differently able people”. The later statement sounds empowering while the first statement triggers feelings of dependence and incapability. Hence the Language we speak and the words we use plays an important role in defining our own internal architecture and also in affecting those who interact with us.(This is an excerpt for my research article " Impact of Language on Psychological well-being https://www.onlinejournal.in/IJIRV3I8/031.pdf,2017)

 During this time there are relationships and communities that are thriving exceptionally, building human values and strong support systems. While on the other hand we are hearing of divorce rates going higher, increase in parent-children conflicts, stress and anxiety is on a rise.

The good news is that, during this time of Pandemic lock down, we can build stronger relationships by the language and words we use with our loved ones. I understand that in this time many people may be going through surging emotions and unknowingly may use words that are harmful, hurtful and disruptive to your relationships. Once the words are released from our mouth is like an arrow released from the bow which will not return. So hold it longer, take a step backwards in your mind, think of the outcome before you speak .... So, are you using your words to build, admonish, encourage and heal? or are you intentionally or unintentionally using your words to hurt, damage, dis-courage, demotivate or even kill?..... You hold the Power in your own tongue to build or destroy !

So dear friends, during this time of lock-down as we are in very close proximity of our loved ones, parents I encourage you to be watchful while you speak to your children, be intentional in the words you use for them. Are you saying "I love you, You are precious, you are beautiful"? or words that are harsh on mind and emotions?.... Are you correcting and training your child with words that would increase his/her self- esteem, self -confidence and self-worth??

Teenagers I would encourage you to be watchful of the words you speak to your parents, siblings or friends. While emotions may surge, be intentional in the words you use. Are you saying " I am learning, I am grateful for the support, I am glad I have my parents"? .....or words that express disrespect, dis-honor, ungratefulness? .......Are you building or disrupting ??

Couples, I encourage you to be watchful while you are exchanging words in that heat of the moment. Are you using words to build closeness and happiness around you, appreciating and acknowledging each others effort? or are you saying something that could create distress, regret, shame and disruption...... Also, to those who have children, your kids are constantly watching and hearing you.....

Leaders, I encourage you to chose your words wisely as you continue to engage and build stronger connections with your employees and clientele. Are you using words to build the morale, words that express empathy and concern? Or words that could possibly devastate and demotivate........

My dear friends, I would therefore urge you and encourage to be more intentional in using your words to inspire, admonish and to spread happiness. Build a new habit, make a list of words that describes any person, action, deed or expression in a powerful and appreciative manner and commit to use it often during the day in this lock down.

I am sure you will realize the Power of your words! The magic of creating a happy environment around you and being more in control of your emotions and relationships. You hold the Power !

Stay Safe, Stay Healthy, Stay Happy!

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