Power Of A Smile
Chris Moon MBE
Keynote speaker. When it comes to resilience and mental toughness I know the way, I've been the way and I can show the way.
It’s so important to smile (but not in a creepy way)
Why?
Scientists say we actually feel better when we smile. Try it, go on really smile. Look at a beautiful flower, think of a great place or something amazing you did that really made you smile (possibly best if you keep the last one to yourself). Go on smile - If you are you should be getting a warm glow.
It makes us feel better
Dopamine, endorphins and serotonin are released which relaxes us, reducing heart rate and blood pressure. Endorphins are natural painkillers so if we can be gracious and smile when in pain it helps. If I’m suffering on an ultra-distance run (which I usually am) I think of something that makes me smile. It helps; you feel better and it gets you to the end, then you’ll smile even more when you cross the finish line.
It’s good for our health and relationships
This chemical release improves mood overcoming anxiety and depression. It relieves stress, boosts the immune system, reduces heart rate and blood pressure and also relieves pain. Studies show people who smile live longer (US study of a football team photo showed those with a happy smile lived 7 years longer). According to studies smiling also makes us look younger, thinner and more attractive. Smiling makes us seem courteous, likeable and competent and releases more feel-good chemicals in our body than chocolate. It’s also infectious. The 9 Superpowers of Your Smile
Is all smiling good?
Don’t think so. Most of us have been on the receiving end of a sarcastic smile or a controlling smile when someone’s displeased with us. Here are the types of smile to avoid: insincere, creepy, controlling, bullying, smug and psycho. In the movie The Shining, Jack Nicholson axes through a door, smiles and says ‘Wendy I’m home’ giving an example of a psycho smile that’s not good. (Yes, you can Google it and try not to do one). Psychology of Smiling: can you tell a fake smile from a genuine one?
What’s behind the smile?
Most of us can tell a genuine smile, or can we? The best thing to have behind a smile is a thankful heart and an I’m ok you’re ok attitude. The human being can’t be in two conflicting emotional states so if we feel down, make a conscious effort to smile and put on a happy face we’ll actually feel happier. People with a pencil between their teeth, forcing their lips into a smile, actually feel better.
We get back what we give out
When talking to someone who was having a tough time they frowned and said ‘Wherever I go people look miserable. That’s the way the world is.’ We did some work on getting them to focus on a happy state, sing their happy song and smile more. A week later they phoned and said ‘Wherever I go people smile and my world’s so much better’. What goes around comes around. Just as kindness and courtesy cost us nothing having a generous accepting view of the world in which we smile and spread some sunshine is important (unless you’re standing next to a psycho- in which case move) and it’ll almost certainly be reflected back in far great quantity.
This article first appeared on my blog page at www.chrismoon.co.uk where you can find links to other articles on the power & benefits of smiling.
Community Care Assist at Helping Hands Homecare
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I am always smiling and enjoy making others smile too... Not in a creepy way I might add ??
Head of Economics at Wolverhampton Grammar School
5 年?Smiles are contagious... energising and build confidence with all concerned.?
Helping people and organisations achieve their potential
5 年I was smiling all the way through reading your article Chris Moon MBE until the part about creepy smiles: Jack Nicholson’s smile has always made me uncomfortable, even when he’s playing a good character. Best wishes from NZ, too!
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5 年Great post Chris which also reminded me of an old Army recruitment advert to coach people not to hide behind email when things go wrong and customers are upset. I know you have been in far worse situations, and escaped to tell the tale using this as part of your considerable toolkit. Eye contact and a smile beats shoe staring and email every time! https://youtu.be/TBVAzfpjzGc?