The power of shifting your identity

The power of shifting your identity?

In my early 20s, I worked in bars.

In some of Manchester’s late-night cocktail venues. Dealing with customers who’d had way too much to drink.?

At closing time, there'd be someone refusing to leave.?

“I want one more drink! I’m not going anywhere...”

I’d try to ignore them at first. Then I'd hear:?

“Do you know who I am?!”

On one occasion, I heard my colleague deliver an amazing response.

He stopped the rest of the team:?

“Everyone, we’ve got a man over here that doesn’t know who he is!”

We laughed as the bouncers removed our polite customer.

Identity

This reminded me of something important to us. Our identity.?

Who we think we are. What we stand for.

Our sense of purpose.?

My old friend made a joke out of this man who didn’t know who he was.

Like he’d forgotten his identity.?

A scary thought. ?

Whether that’s on a night out with friends or in our careers.?

Our pride in who we are is essential for our well-being.?

Being authentic counts

Self-talk dictates what we become.?

I’m not a weight loss coach, however, one of my clients has an inspiring goal to lose 3.5 stone in weight.?

He entered my Personal Transformation Programme with questions about his career.?

After recently starting a new job, he lost his confidence.

Always doubting himself. Beating himself up over every mistake.?

He was suffering from Imposter Syndrome. He was saying overly critical things to himself:

“Did they make a mistake when they hired me?”?

“What if they notice that I’m a fraud and decide to fire me?”

The reality was his new company loved him.

They were so happy that he decided to accept their offer after a long interview process.?

On the surface, it seemed like he was initially looking for a coach to help him deal with day-to-day problems in his job.?

Yet, this wasn’t the case.?

The 1:1 Coaching Effect

In our first session, I helped him to get to the root cause of his confidence problems.?

I performed the Life Wheel exercise with him. This always has great success with any of my new clients...

After honestly reviewing his own life, it was clear that physically he needed to change.?

Before tackling his confidence problems at work, he first needed to work on himself.

This was a real lightbulb moment for him.

The Value of Coaching

You may think your problems lie in one particular area, yet there may be another area of your life that needs fixing first.?

I’m happy to say that after 5 coaching sessions, my client has turned the corner.?

He’s lost 5 kilos already by committing to 10,000 steps every day, using his Peloton bike, and getting to sleep way earlier than he had been.?

The shift in mindset has been incredible. Even at this early stage.?

And guess what??

He’s feeling better at work too. His self-esteem has increased. He feels better in meetings, and he’s communicating more calmly.?

It’s always the most rewarding part of my job to see someone transform their life. Especially when they enter the coaching process feeling hopeless and unhappy.?

Identity Switch

Instead of feeling depressed, my client decided to take action.

He wasn't happy with his current identity. He felt unhealthy and thought he was a fraud at work.

For my client, "do you know who I am?" now has a different meaning.

He's proud of himself again.

Interested in a similar experience?

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Otherwise, have a great weekend!

Tom