The power of reframing
Debora Luzi
I teach you how to turn your words into sales| Author| Speaker | Content Teacher| Host of the Women Who Dare to Desire conference| Queen of embodied visibility
What if you could reframe and start seeing things differently?
Many of the conversations I have with people regarding fear of showing up online lead to being judged, criticised, saying the wrong things and offending others.
What about if you see the possible offence and triggers you may cause in others as a blessing to them and yourself?
Let me explain.
A while back, I had a conversation with someone, and I said something the other person did not like. It was not what she wanted to hear because it triggered her.
She called me unprofessional, insensitive, blocked me, and have not heard back for a long time.
I felt bad and wrong for a while, but I knew a lesson was coming for both.
One day after 6 months, I received a message from her thanking me for what I said, as it made her think and realise she needed to do something with it.
She said she wanted to work with me, and so we did.
If I had not spoken my truth for fear of saying the wrong thing, this would not have happened.
My words came from a place of truth and love, and eventually, they were received as such.
There will always be people who love or hate what you say.
The reaction of hate can become a beautiful blessing for both.
I remember the considerable online controversy around Marie Forleo during the Black Lives Matter for what she said in one of her group.
Her comments created a lot of hate and disagreement online, which turned into a blessing for many people.
First for her, as she realised she had to do work around this, she apologised and started to make different choices.
Then for the many people who started to speak around the #BLM, raising awareness, spreading understanding and desire of change because of her negative comment.
It's all about reframing.
What about if you see the fear you have around messing up as an opportunity to learn and grow for both you and the receiver of your message?
However it goes, it is just how it needs to go.
And in you speaking your truth and overcoming your fears, there can only be growth, even if fear does not let you see it at first.
Much daring and written love,
Debora