The Power of Praise
Nequea Coleman
I ghostwrite premium LinkedIn content for service & B2B Entrepreneurs.
Remember that time?
That time you spent so much time building something.
Remember how much effort you put in?
- How satisfied you were?
- How excited you were?
- But when you showed the world...
You got criticized!
They said:
- Not enough details here.
- Too much attention there.
- Maybe this would be better if...
NO!
They thought they were being helpful...
But deep down it hurt.
Why?
As Much as We Seek Approval, We Dread Criticism
Admit it.
Getting criticized feels like getting stabbed.
No matter how much we try to ignore it—it hurts.
Yet, we continue to criticize others.
Why?
Because it's much easier to find negatives. It's how our brains are wired.
Survival.
Our immediate impulse is to find the shadows in a room of light.
From an evolutionary stance, "hunting the good stuff" doesn't feed you when you're hungry.
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How do you feel when you're criticized?
If focusing on the darkness is our natural instinct, what's the alternative?
Praise!
Lets say you want to get someone to do something for you. (ethically)
What do you do?
Simple—you make them want to do it.
You do this with praise.
Why?
Praise satisfies our greatest hunger that's often unsatisfied...
A feeling of importance.
“The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”
One of my favorite quotes from Dale Carnegie—author of How to Win Friends and Influence People.
Somehow we're so focused on what could be done better, that we forget to celebrate...
- Small wins
- Great attempts
- A job well done
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him.”
Shower everyone with praise, and the words you speak will be carried for a lifetime—and even beyond that.
Make others feel important in three simple steps...
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The full version of this newsletter is here: https://nequea.blog/posts/powerful-compliments
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