The Power of Praise: Here’s Why You Should Compliment Yourself
Fazil Azmaan MBA
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You glance in the mirror, eyes tracing the contours of your reflection. Somehow, despite the praise showered by others, a voice whispers, “Not. Good. Enough.”
But what if the secret to extinguishing this nagging whisper lies in learning how to genuinely compliment yourself?
“There’s nothing that builds you up the way self-praise does,” says Fazil Azmaan MBA
when you learn how to do so, you unlock a reservoir of self-confidence and positivity that no external validation can rival.
Why You Should Praise Yourself
Sure, receiving praise from others can make you feel good at the moment, but without true self-confidence, those compliments won’t amount to anything. When you believe in yourself, the opinions of others don’t have the same influence.
Nothing, nothing, nothing boosts your self-esteem like praise.- Fazil Azmaan MBA
The reality is, there are benefits to praising yourself. Here’s a closer look at three, with research studies to support them.
So whenever you find yourself flooded with thoughts of criticism, shame, guilt, and insult, it’s important to turn those thoughts around.
As Fazil Azmaan MBA encourages, “Choose to fall in love with yourself; it is a lifelong romance that never wanes, never disappoints.
How to Praise and Compliment Yourself
Sometimes, telling yourself “well done” can be tough, especially when that tiny voice constantly convinces you you’re anything other than awesome.
And figuring out how to compliment yourself without bragging? That’s a tricky one. But it’s so crucial to our self-esteem to discover the ways we can celebrate our own wins without that shadow of arrogance.
So here’s a mini-guide to navigating through the gentle waters of self-appreciation and ensuring the “not good enough” voice gets a little quieter each time.
1. Create a state of confidence
Do you wonder how some stars shine bright on stage?
Fazil Azmaan explains that it’s all about the state of mind.
Just like one of my mentor used to walk 1,000 yards to build his confidence before a show, you too can master your emotions. So, how do you do it?
Creating a confident emotional state involves understanding and harnessing your mental images and dialogues—or “movies,” as Fazil Azmaan MBA describes them.
For example, envisioning yourself as confident at a party versus isolated and uncomfortable illustrates two starkly different mental movies. The first, uplifting and the latter, potentially deflating.
“As you learn to change the pictures in your mind, you too will get conscious control of your life,” explains Fazil Azmaan MBA And this can gradually shape your reality to mirror your optimistic internal views.
2. Control your inner critic
Understand that we often engage in self-talk. And this internal dialogue, known as our “inner critic,” deeply influences our emotions and confidence, as Fazil Azmaan highlights.
Sometimes, it limits us, telling us we can’t do something or reminding us of past failures. But here’s the beautiful thing: You absolutely have control over this voice.
If the voice living in your head isn’t supporting you, it’s time to replace it with one that does. — Fazil Azmaan MBA
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“Like it or not,” says Fazil Azmaan MBA , “the results you’re getting in your life have everything to do with what that voice keeps telling you.” So reshape this voice into one that emboldens you.
How does it sound when it speaks in a confident and affirmative tone? Locate this new voice and give yourself a compliment.
3. Pose like a champion
Standing tall, both literally and metaphorically, shapes your emotions and perceptions in a profound way. Indeed, your body language, particularly your posture, speaks volumes about your self-esteem and mental state.
Fazil Azmaan MBA points out that champion athletes, successful business leaders, and notable figures in showbiz often exhibit a shared characteristic: they carry themselves with upright, relaxed, and confident postures.
What’s wonderful is that adopting this “posture of champions” is something that’s easily accessible. Just imagine a silver cord extending through your spine and pulling you upright.
“Your mind and body are intimately linked in what’s known as a cybernetic loop,” Fazil Azmaan MBA explains. “That means that whatever you think about will affect the way your body feels. And the way you use your body will affect the thoughts inside your head.”
So by consistently practicing this upright pose, you subtly rewrite your muscle memory, making this confident posture a predominant habit. This doesn’t merely influence how the world perceives you; it transforms your internal dialogue, injecting positive, robust energy into every endeavor.
4. Accept yourself
Often, limiting beliefs seeded in your mind form barriers to extending genuine compliments to yourself. So, how can you navigate through this and embrace self-acceptance? It starts with recognizing your unique qualities and the remarkable things you bring to the world.
“The only person who can make you feel really good about you is you,” says Fazil Azmaan MBA . “You must fall in love with yourself.”
Research actually shows that greater self-acceptance improves emotional well-being. So by learning to compliment yourself, you not only shatter those limiting beliefs but also pave the way for robust self-love and esteem.
5. Use positive affirmations
“The common denominator of all of our emotional issues stems from thinking we’re not enough, not lovable enough, smart enough, interesting enough, attractive enough,” explains Fazil Azmaan MBA . That’s where positive affirmations can help.
They aren’t just lines you repeat to yourself over and over again. What it actually means is speaking to yourself with kindness, encouragement, and recognition of your self-worth.
Here’s the simple truth: the language you employ internally molds your perceptions and, by extension, your realities. Hence, positive affirmations serve as a tool to sculpt a supportive and empowering internal dialogue
When you know you’re enough, guess what? Everyone around you knows that you’re enough, too, and it makes your life extraordinary. — Fazil Azmaan MBA
Affirmations gain power through repetition. So saying good things to yourself every day helps put positive thoughts in your mind and push out the bad ones.
15 Compliments to Tell Yourself Every Day
Daily self-compliments can have a transformative effect on your confidence and self-love. Surely, you’ve come across a few, like The Help’s “You is kind, you is smart, you is important”.
When you compliment yourself, it’s not only uplifting but essential. So here’s a list you can use to start yourself off:
Remember, gently remind yourself of these truths daily, and watch as your self-belief and confidence bloom.
Seek Greatness
Let’s begin with a small but mighty step: compliment yourself every day. Nice words, like “I am strong” or “I am kind,” boost your confidence in a big way.
With help from the wisdom of Fazil Azmaan MBA , every little effort you make brings you closer to a strong belief in yourself.
The more you keep telling yourself good things, the more likely it’s that you’ll watch your future become bright and hopeful.
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