The Power of Positive Self-Talk, Especially When Leading in Uncertainty

I don’t want to pass up the opportunity to share an article I read about leadership. Here are a few highlights:

You may feel that leadership is more challenging now than ever because of economic uncertainty, competitive pressures, and the fact that leading a hybrid workforce successfully requires strong emotional intelligence and communication skills.?

During times like these, people look to their leaders for guidance on what to do and how to do it. Not only are you responsible for making the tough decisions, but all eyes are on you. You have a responsibility to be a good role model, including managing your own reactions.

But dealing with uncertainty can be difficult, and as a human, you’re subject to the same feelings of stress and worry as your team.

So what can you do? It might sound trivial, but one small step to take: Consider how you talk to yourself. It can impact both how you handle stress and how others see you.

How to Harness the Power of Positive Self-Talk

4 Tips for Leaders

Research shows the incredible power of positive self-talk. So whether you’re speaking out loud, thinking in your head, or just jotting things down in a journal, follow these guidelines to harness the power of positive self-talk to improve your mental health and others’ perceptions of your leadership skill.

1. Shift from “me, myself, and I” to “you/your.”

Studies have found that people who think of themselves in the “second person” (e.g., “You can do this!”) or talk to themselves using their own name (e.g., “Great job, Cathleen!”) instead of in the “first-person” (e.g., “I’m doing a great job”) fared better during stressful situations. Specifically, people who were randomly assigned to practice second-person self-talk:

• Recovered quicker from social stressors;
• Made better first impressions, in others’ eyes;
• Performed better on a public speaking challenge; and
• Saw daunting tasks as challenges rather than threats.

Our researchers have found similar results. As noted in our research report , we looked at how leaders talk to themselves and found that leaders who used second-person “you” pronouns in their inner dialogue were rated as less likely to derail, according to their peers. On the flip side, leaders who used first-person “I” pronouns were given lower performance ratings by their bosses and higher ratings for likelihood of derailment by their peers.

This pronoun trick proves the power of positive self-talk: Simply talking to yourself in the second person causes you to take a step back and see things more objectively. It offers a nearly effortless way to regulate your emotions and harness self-control — both of which are especially important during challenging times.

2. Talk to yourself like you would to your closest friend.

To understand the power of positive self-talk, in another study our researchers examined nearly 200 self-addressed, anonymized letters that senior executives wrote to themselves as part of their development. They then classified the self-talk as either:

• Constructive: Comments that were thoughtful, substantive, motivational, insightful, positive, and self-reflective we classified as constructive self-talk.
• Dysfunctional: Comments that were highly critical or focused on obstacles and negative aspects of challenging situations were classified as dysfunctional.

We found that leaders who used dysfunctional self-talk and swore at themselves in these letters were rated by others as having lower creativity and originality scores — even though other people never saw the letters! But this make sense: Negative, dysfunctional self-talk (including swearing at yourself) reflects a leader who is struggling to embrace change, see setbacks as a learning opportunity, and learn lessons from adversity and hardships .

In contrast, the power of positive self-talk was revealed because researchers found that constructive self-talk was positively related to increased creativity and leadership skill, along with decreased job strain. In short, your words matter, even if you’re the only one who hears them!

So, talk to yourself the way you would to a friend. If you prefer kindness in the workplace , and wouldn’t want to work for someone who yelled obscenities at you, then don’t use them about yourself, either — not even in private. Be kind to yourself!

Want to know more? Head on over to the full article here for more ideas and perspectives. Afterwards, why not drop me an email to share your thoughts at [email protected] ; or call me on 0467 749 378.

Thanks,

Robert