The Power of Positive Focus

Public speaking is one of my greatest passions. I take pride in meticulously preparing and practicing my talking points. Rather than staying confined behind a podium, I prefer to move around and truly connect with my audience. However, if you are anything like me, you have probably encountered the less enjoyable aspects of public speaking.        

A few months ago, I attended a seminar hosted by a close friend. Afterward, I complimented her on the excellent job she did. When I asked how she felt, she admitted that several people were scrolling on their phones, some were frowning, and a couple were even asleep. YIKES! She confessed that it was incredibly distracting and threw her off her game. I quickly reminded her, "But what about me and the other 50 people in the room who applauded and chimed in with ‘Amen! I hear you! Preach, girl!’ throughout your speech?" She explained that she was too focused on trying to engage the less responsive people.

I completely understood where she came from with her comments. In the past, I have often found myself caught in a mental tug-of-war, fixating on those in the audience whose expressions show disinterest, skepticism, or even disapproval. But I’ve learned that this mindset can be a significant roadblock to delivering a powerful message. Here’s what I’ve discovered, along with some tips on how to overcome this challenge. It’s a natural human tendency to zero in on negativity, but in doing so, we often overlook a powerful truth: the key to a successful speech isn’t in trying to win over those with frowns on their faces. Instead, it lies in harnessing the energy and encouragement from those who are smiling, nodding, and engaging positively.

As a speaker, your energy and enthusiasm are contagious. When you focus on those who are visibly supportive, you allow yourself to tap into a wellspring of positivity that can enhance your delivery, boost your confidence, and create a more dynamic connection with your audience. These individuals are your allies—they resonate with your message, they reflect your passion, and their engagement can amplify the impact of your words.

When you direct your attention to the supportive faces in the crowd, you are not just speaking to them; you are also setting a tone that can influence the rest of the audience. The more you engage with those who are receptive, the more you can shift the overall atmosphere of the room, potentially drawing in those who were initially skeptical or indifferent.

Moreover, focusing on positive reactions can help you maintain your composure and stay on message. It is easy to get thrown off track by a disapproving glance or a skeptical frown, but when you concentrate on the affirming responses, you are more likely to stay in the flow, delivering your speech with the conviction and clarity it deserves.

This approach is not at all about ignoring constructive criticism or feedback—it is about energy and prioritizing where you draw from during the speech. After all, a speech is a performance, and like any performer, your goal is to connect with your audience in a way that resonates. By channeling the positive energy in the room, you can create a more powerful, memorable, and effective presentation.

In your next speaking engagement, challenge yourself to shift your focus. Instead of dwelling on the few frowns in the crowd, seek out the smiles. Engage with those who are nodding in agreement, who are taking notes, and who are visibly energized by your words. You will find that this small change in perspective can make a world of difference in your performance and the impact of your message.

Remember, as a speaker, you have the power to influence the room—but the room also has the power to influence you. Choose to be influenced by positivity, and you will find that your speeches not only become more enjoyable to deliver but also leave a lasting impression on those who hear them.