The Power of Networking and Support: Why Being Kind and Open-Minded Matters in Your Career

In today’s rapidly evolving tech industry, networking has become more than just exchanging business cards or adding someone on LinkedIn. It’s about building meaningful connections, supporting others, and maintaining an open-minded, respectful attitude toward everyone you encounter. Unfortunately, some professionals still hold on to harmful biases that can limit their growth and miss opportunities for collaboration.

Imagine a scenario where a man approaches two women on a Friday night at a popular restaurant and bar where they are catching up after not seeing each other for a while. ?The two women happen to be an experienced tech recruiter and a CISO (Chief Information Security Officer). ?After the man introduces himself and they exchange the typical, “Do you come here often and what do you do for a living?” small talk, he says he is transitioning out of IT into Accounting because, “white men can’t get jobs in IT anymore because jobs are being given to DEI (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion) hires—women who aren’t qualified and don’t know what they’re doing.” Not only is this perspective rooted in a lack of understanding of diversity and merit, but it also reveals a significant lack of awareness about the importance of relationships and respect in the workplace.

To clarify, the two women at the restaurant happen to be me and my sister-in-law Diane Sawyer Nemmers . So, true story here. ?

The Reality of Networking

Networking is about creating bridges, not burning them. The people you encounter in your career—regardless of their background, gender, or role—might be the very people who open the next door for you. Being dismissive, judgmental, or condescending toward others can close off potential opportunities before they even arise.

In this case, the man’s complaint not only demonstrates a narrow view of the IT industry but also a missed opportunity to connect with professionals who could potentially help him. Diane and I have extensive networks and knowledge of the industry, and a respectful, curious approach could lead to valuable advice or even job leads. Instead, the negativity and bias displayed created an instant barrier to building those connections.

The Importance of Kindness and Support

It’s easy to underestimate how far a kind, supportive attitude can go in your career. When you approach others with genuine curiosity, respect, and a willingness to learn, you naturally draw people toward you. Whether you’re seeking advice, mentorship, or a job referral, people are more inclined to help those who treat them with dignity and respect.

Understanding DEI and the Value of Diverse Teams

The complaint that “DEI hires” are taking jobs from “qualified candidates” is not only inaccurate but also overlooks the importance of diverse perspectives in driving innovation and growth. Numerous studies have shown that diverse teams are more creative, perform better financially, and are better at solving complex problems . Rather than seeing diversity as a threat, it’s essential to recognize it as a strength that benefits everyone.

Moreover, the assumption that women or individuals from underrepresented groups are hired solely due to DEI initiatives rather than their skills and expertise is both harmful and untrue. Many of these professionals have overcome significant barriers to earn their place in the industry, and they bring valuable insights and contributions to the table.

The Long-Term Impact of Your Attitude

Your attitude toward others and your ability to be supportive, inclusive, and respectful can have a lasting impact on your career. It is crucial to understand that tech industry is a small world, and word travels fast. People remember those who treat them with kindness and those who do not. Your reputation as someone who is open, supportive, and a team player can lead to opportunities you may not even be aware of.

In the end, success in your career isn’t just about your technical skills or experience—it’s about your relationships, your mindset, and how you treat others. Always being nice and supportive is not just about being “politically correct”; it’s about being strategically wise. You never know who might open the door to your next opportunity, and it could be someone you least expect.

I encourage us all to approach every interaction as an opportunity to learn, connect, and support. Be mindful that the world is diverse, and that diversity is an asset, not a liability. In doing so, you’ll not only build a stronger network but also position yourself as someone others want to work with—and that’s a win for everyone involved.

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