The Power of, "I Don't Know"
Brian Egan
Communications | Employee Engagement | Global Strategy | Events | Leadership | Training | Public Speaking | Patient-Centric
As a child, I had a major flaw—I could never say, "I don't know." It drove my father up a wall. He would ask me a question, and even if I had no idea what the answer was, I would fumble through an attempt to make something up rather than admit I didn’t know. One day, I remember him, completely defeated, asking me, "Why can't you just say, you don't know?" That moment stuck with me. It wasn’t just frustration; it was a lesson. A lesson I’m still trying to incorporate many years later.
As professionals, we’re often expected to have all the answers—instant experts, human Googles, walking encyclopedias. But here’s the thing: we don’t. The beauty is that we don't need to. In fact, there’s something powerful, even liberating, about the phrase "I don't know."
At some point, we’ve all faked an answer or nodded along in agreement when we had no clue what was happening. Maybe it was in a meeting, or maybe during a particularly intense game of trivia (no one really knows how many bones are in the human body off the top of their head, right?). Or, perhaps it was that time your boss sent a heartfelt email to congratulate a team member—only to get their spouse's name completely wrong. Whoops. What if we could normalize "I don't know" and treat it as a strength rather than a weakness?
Why Saying "I Don't Know" is Powerful
Leaders, Take Note
Saying "I don't know" isn’t just for individuals—it's essential for leadership. When leaders are willing to admit gaps in their knowledge, they set a tone of openness, curiosity, and continuous learning. This not only builds trust but encourages team members to be honest about their own uncertainties, fostering a culture where learning is prioritized over perfection.
A leader who’s always claiming to have all the answers risks creating an environment where employees are afraid to ask questions or admit they need help. But when a leader says, "I don’t know, let’s figure it out together," it shows that growth and collaboration are more important than pretending to know it all.
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Final Thoughts
In a world that’s obsessed with expertise, admitting "I don’t know" is quietly revolutionary. It invites learning, fosters trust, and encourages collaboration. Plus, let’s be real—it saves us from some truly awkward situations. (Like that time I was asked about blockchain technology, and I could only respond with a blank stare and a vague, "It’s... something with the internet?").
So, the next time you’re in a meeting, on a call, or even just at a dinner party, don’t be afraid to say those three little words. It might just be the smartest thing you do all day. But then again, it may not. After all, "I don't know."
Your Turn
How has embracing "I don’t know" impacted your work or personal life? Share your stories in the comments—let’s normalize the art of learning together.
Associate Director, Global Social Media at Merz Aesthetics
5 个月please don't use this when I ask you questions though :)