The power of goodbye

Letting go is one of the biggest things to do in live. It′s hard, it′s sad, it′s painful. But it′s also liberating, a new start and a relief. And it makes you grow, no matter how painful saying goodbye was.  I had to let go in the last years more than I wanted to, I had to let go people I didn′t want to let go and I had to let go things and jobs I didn′t want to. Sometimes you have to let go and it′s not your own will to do so. But if it is, it is big. It is the power of goodbye.

I can tell you about a very recent happening in my life, I had to let go of a friend. A long lasting friendship that did not seem to have any other way out then the irreversible goodbye.  Years of internal battling (should I, should I not) have finally come to an end. Out of energy, out of will to fight and the finding, that there is nothing left that once has brought us together. People change during the years, life circumstances changing during the years, and yes, friendships change or even die with the years.  

However, the older you get, the more selective you are or you should be with all your relationships, romantic ones, friendships or work relationships.  No way, with almost 40 I want to spend my time fighting a battle in my mind over a friend that is no friend anymore. Sleepless nights, crying when writing goodbye mails and don′t sending them, discussing with myself in my own mind. I want to spend my energy and my goodwill on people they are good for me. That is age. That is wisdom. That is being mature. 

 So no matter what you are dissatisfied  or struggeling with, your job, your relationship or your friendships. If you can′t change the way you feel about it, it′s probably time to say goodbye. Not before trying, not before having had a deep thought about it, not before being a 100% sure about it. If you are, you are. Then the power of goodbye will strengthen you. And the feeling of relief will reward you.