The Power of Community

I attended a successful meeting recently where a group of 60 gathered to discuss a topic of deep interest. These individuals ranged in experience, credentials, and backgrounds, yet all shared a deep passion for a particular topic of clinical importance. We spent approximately five hours together, and we were able to discuss and evoke action across this complex area of focus. Many of the attendees left energized and elated.

In an unfortunate swing, I lost a dear friend this week who has been a part of my life most of my adulthood. Like most experience in times of loss, the floodgates opened with memories of laughter, tears, and lessons shared. Even through the pain of grief, this individual relationship is one I will forever cherish. Relationships are the gift of life, even with pain when they have to end.

These events have been a stark reminder of the rollercoaster of life. I find myself thinking deeply about the power of our individual relationships, as well as the impact of community. I have been reflecting on the work of author and psychologist Marisa Franco and her study of friendships . She describes loneliness as more toxic than poor diet and exercise. Marisa dives into "collective loneliness", which is the desire to be part of a group focused on a common goal. Community alleviates collective loneliness. Professional communities are powerful to both the individual and achievement, and one of the biggest career drivers when evaluating opportunities.

Several takeaways Marisa shared to foster strong relationships:

Assume others want to engage with you. We bring our history book of relationships to every interaction, good or bad, directly impacting our confidence when meeting someone new.

Structure your life with organic, consistent interaction with those whom which you would like to develop relationships.

Be vulnerable. Vulnerability lets others see us as authentic and honest.

Affirm others. Praise successes, compliment, affirm what the work (or friendship, or discussion) mean to you.

Lend support in times of need. It sounds simple, but when people feel supported, they are more energized by the relationship, and elevates outcomes.

In our business life, we foster relationships that augment our spouse, family, and circle of friends. We are moving towards a common goal, which by action, can create unity. Connecting to others connects us to ourselves. Connecting to a community can elevate our individuality, and help us achieve more collectively than alone. Our community becomes an amplification of who we are, and who we aspire to become.