Power of Choice: Filling Your Own Tank

In the journey of life, the power of choice is a potent force that shapes our experiences, particularly in times of emotional upheaval and grief. In my book, Live Your Legacy, A New Spin on Mourning, I delve into this concept in the chapter titled Mind Over Matter, which stands out as a profound exploration of the choices we make in the face of emotional challenges.

The Essence of Choice

Emotions, especially those linked to grief, are undeniable. They are real, raw, and often overwhelming. Yet, as an end-of-life coach, my mission is to serve as a catalyst—a reminder that even in the depths of emotional turmoil, you possess the power to choose how you navigate your feelings. This is not about dismissing or overlooking emotions but about recognizing that once you identify feelings that do not serve your well-being, you have the choice to shift your focus and fill your emotional gas tank.

Filling Your Tank

Imagine your emotional state as a gas tank. When it’s full, you have the energy and drive to move forward. When it’s empty, you feel stuck, drained, and incapable of progress. The key is to consciously choose activities and practices that elevate your energy levels, effectively filling your tank.

Music is one such tool. Uplifting, motivating music can shift your mindset from a place of sorrow to one of empowerment. You’ll notice the difference—some music slows you down, deepening the melancholy, while other tunes lift you up, sparking a sense of hope and resilience. When your emotional tank feels depleted, I encourage you to engage with the latter. This is not about forcing happiness but about making a choice that aligns with your desire to heal and grow.

The Challenge of Self-Talk

Our inner dialogue plays a significant role in our emotional state. Often, we tell ourselves, “I can’t,” or “I’m not able to,” which can reinforce feelings of helplessness. However, by recognizing these thoughts and challenging them with affirmations like, “Yes, I can,” and “Yes, I am able,” you begin to reclaim your power of choice. It’s not easy—it requires practice and persistence. But as you cultivate new habits through consistent, intentional choices, you’ll begin to see a transformation in your circumstances.

Creating New Circumstances

The beauty of life lies in its unpredictability. We will undoubtedly face emotional pain again, but by strengthening our ability to choose positive practices now, we prepare ourselves for future recoveries. Each new challenge might require another level of practice and performance, but with each recovery, we grow more resilient.

The practices you establish today, based on your power of choice, will serve as the foundation for navigating tomorrow’s trials. By filling your emotional tank regularly—through music, self-talk, or other uplifting activities—you equip yourself with the strength and energy needed for future challenges.

In Conclusion

The power of choice is not just a concept but a daily practice. As you navigate your journey, remember that you have the ability to fill your tank, to choose actions that elevate you, and to cultivate habits that will see you through even the darkest of times. My book, Live Your Legacy, A New Spin on Mourning, and my work as an end-of-life coach are here to remind you that while the road may be tough, the choice to move forward is always within your reach. Choose to fill your tank and move forward with resilience and grace.

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