Is there poisonous love or precious?

I was wondering why not we call the love as “fatal love” or “toxic love” or “lethal love” or “deadly love”. Jokes apart love is seriously very poisonous, it won’t kill you for sure but can paralyze your life, your aspirations, your dreams and sometimes even your happiness, this is what i found on internet. I went ahead and asked a few good fellas about it. I know this is not a good place for typing practice but I wanted to help the poisonous lover. Oh, we drifted from the real question, “ what is poisonous love”.

When asked to Tom, he said “love that is poisonous” but when asked to Dick, he replied “love that creates poison in the lives of the stakeholders and paralyzes them slowly accompanied by comfort”. However, Harry had a PhD so he gave a very interesting answer, he said “ when you mix a lot of ego, foolishness and shit in the ocean of love, you create poisonous love “. Kindly don’t judge people too soon, Since I don’t have any personal say in poisonous love, please reach out to Tom, Dick and Harry for any queries.

It's complicated. Sometimes it's poisonous and sometimes precious. This world is not like a Fairy tale or any of barbie movies where the bad person is always bad and the hero/heroine is always good. Like we humans are complicated our emotions are also hard to understand and are complicated. I hope you did’t wasted few of your poisonous minutes and i’m sure you learned something about poisonous love.

Let me give you an example of both poisonous and precious love or poisonous. There are a couple who study in 12th. They think they are truly in love and dream about being married to each other in a decade. But after they pass their school, things take a bad turn. The girl gets an invitation from an ivy league college. But the guy doesn't want her to go, he says we should live together and never apart. The girl really wanted to go to the U.S but after her boyfriend threatened her that he will break up with her, she gets admission in a local college where the boy will also study with her. Destroying her dreams.

As much as I know I think this a sign of poisonous love. Why?? Well, because if being in love stops you from achieving things and the other person never see things from your perspective. Than it's not love. Love is when instead of stopping you from your aim the other person tries to help you achieve your aim and you do the same for him/her also. Precious love as I told wouldn't be the one to stop you but would help you to achieve your goals. So, if we alter the story and in that story the boy instead of discouraging her to go abroad, he would help her and give her, his support.Then it would be precious love.

Love is never poisonous. The person you are in love with can be poisonous. Toxic traits can be : When you start feeling you can't be your true version in their presence. When you are start feeling bounded. When the other person impose restrictions on you. When the other person is asking you to change. When the other person start taking everything you do for them for granted. When you start feeling you are the only one putting in efforts. When the other person doesn't respect you. When the other person doesn't respect your opinions. When the other person try to dominate. When the other person doesn't understand your personal space. Love is one of the most beautiful , pure and powerful emotion it can never be toxic . People, their mentality, there actions are toxic.

There are basically wo conditions in love; The first one is if you are weak-hearted, emotional guy or girl, you will end up being shattered. You will feel like dying, like nothing is left for you except her. And to free yourself from her feelings, you will try to forget her. But the hardest you will try to forget her, you will miss her the most. And as a result, you will feel like living through hell and go into deep depression.

And now the second one: If you are strong enough from heart and have the courage in you to love the girl without getting loved in return, you can live your life happily without feeling like hell. Here, you have to realize the fact that you are nowhere in her life. But if you really love her, you will not feel any pain for not getting loved. But the main question arises but how long can you continue like this? My answer is, as long as someone else is not coming in your life to give you that love. Cheers!