Platonic Relationship?

Finding it hard to understand your feelings towards your friend?

Confusing that the person is becoming more than just a friend or is it just a feeling?

Love is an emotional attachment with a special person expressed through action, care and affection and it is bond between people. Different types of love exist for different relationships.

The love between friends is platonic love. Platonic describes a relationship that is purely spiritual and not physical. If a guy and a girl hang out all the time but aren't boyfriend and girlfriend, they'd describe their friendship as platonic.

Do you think of them romantically or erotically?

If you don't have strong feeling about that person and just like to hangout with him, then you most likely have a platonic love for him.

The bond between female friends can be a powerful one. But that doesn't mean the bond between women and men can't be just as strong. No, we're not talking about the romantic kind. We're talking friendship -- pure, unadulterated, platonic friendship. 

Let’s say that a man and a woman are friends. They have known each other for a while and nothing has ever happened between them. By “nothing,” I mean that they’ve never kissed.

The chemistry between them is palpable and they’ve been in situations where he could have made a move but he did not. And she recognizes this and respects him for it. She knows that his intentions are ostensibly pure.

Typically, women tend to be drawn to guys with good personalities. Yeah, of course, looks play a part. But as she continues to laugh uncontrollably at his corny jokes, as she continues to turn to him for his advice, as she continues to feel secure in his presence, she will begin to let down her guard.

On the other hand, men tend to be drawn to women who look good. He was first attracted to her because she had sex appeal but as he got to know her more and more—she became beautiful. Controlling his feelings will become that much more difficult. And when he is vulnerable, he’s no longer in control.

The truth is, they may never do anything physical in life. They may never cross the line.

But a relationship can never be truly platonic if you have to set up boundaries.

A relationship can never be truly platonic if you have to adjust your feelings.

A relationship can never truly be platonic --

if you have to pretend that you are happy with the way things really are...when deep down—you want something more.

And for some friends, they may eventually cross the line. Because, ultimately, we are human.

On the flip side, he thinks that she is sexy. He’d love to go out for drinks, take her back to his place, inch closer to her on the couch. But she’s made it clear that she’s not looking for a relationship or she’s already in a committed one.

He’s a respectful guy and completely understands. He’s been placed in the friend zone but he’s not bitter about being there. In fact, he embraces the opportunity. He continues to message her because she’s a cool chick.

And, honestly, when a hot girl messages you, it’s impossible to ignore her. Especially when she’s a nice person.

Whether women and men can be "just friends" is a topic that's been debated ad nauseam. Pop culture has confused us even more, with countless films and shows -- everything from "When Harry Met Sally" to "Friends" -- depicting longtime buddies eventually falling into bed together.

Does love make sex better for most women?

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Talking with a female friend means there's usually no game to distract you, and little chance of embarrassment if you bring up hidden thoughts.

We love that stuff. Share. Compare. "The literature is really clear on this: Women gain from male/female relationships, but in terms of intimacy, sharing, and communication, men gain so much more," says Don O'Meara, a professor of sociology at the University of Cincinnati who published a benchmark study on cross-gender friendship in the journal Sex Roles. "It's to the man's advantage."

Love and commitment can make sex physically more satisfying for many women, according to a Penn State Abington sociologist.. The benefits of being in love with a sexual partner are more than just emotional. Most of the women in the study said that love made sex physically more pleasurable. Women who loved their sexual partners also said they felt less inhibited and more willing to explore their sexuality.

The benefits of being in love with a sexual partner are more than just emotional. Most of the women in the study said that love made sex physically more pleasurable.

"You like her. She likes you. You get along great. You're both unattached. So why not take the next step?" How about because you can't take it back. Or because platonic love doesn't always work in the bedroom. And why the hell didn't he kiss me in junior high?

Men ask questions, and they get answers," says Kathy Werking, Ph.D., author of We're Just Good Friends: Women and Men in Nonromantic Relationships.

Men have a difficult time separating friendship from romance," says Werking. "They don't get the subtleties of relationships. I hope this is changing." (Werking's research shows that sex-free male/female friendships are more common among 20-year-olds than in older generations.)

Here's what she says men can do:

Think through your attraction. Is it physical? Intellectual? Emotional? All three? Might you actually love her (as a friend) rather than lust after her (as a sex partner)? Figure it out. You don't want to hurt her, or be hurt unexpectedly.

Talk it out. That's what this is all about, right?

Learning to use your words, not your body?

If you can't move past your attraction—or you worry that she's attracted—bring up the subject. But be a good guy about it. That's how friends behave. Werking says, "I've interviewed a lot of people about their friendships that didn't last, and the primary reason was they didn't deal with the romantic undertone . . . You just have to take a deep breath and broach the subject. You have to hit it head-on without worrying that it will ruin the relationship."

Warning

• Platonic relationships get deeper and better over time if both parties respect the boundaries.
• Confusion of feelings can lead to unnecessary pain and loss. Think before you make any commitments as a result of your feelings.

Men should be friends with women even without the benefits. We need to expand the notion of what those benefits are.

Think through your attraction.

Is it physical?

Intellectual?

Emotional?

All three?

Might you actually love her (as a friend) rather than lust after her (as a sex partner)?

Figure it out. You don't want to hurt her, or be hurt unexpectedly… ………..(Your comment ).

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