THE PLAGUE-GROUND – REMEMBER WHEN WOMEN WERE CALLED WOMEN?

THE PLAGUE-GROUND – REMEMBER WHEN WOMEN WERE CALLED WOMEN?

Last weekend, I was reading the proofs of my memoir which comes out in June.

My editor queried one word in this sentence: “Like most couples, we have our unspoken tics and habits that signal everything’s okay, or not.”

She wanted to know if I would change “tics” to “idiosyncrasies.” As she wrote in the margin: “Some people, especially in the health and disability communities, take exception to using it casually as it is an uncontrollable movement for people with Tourette’s and other neurological disorders.”

Arrgghh. …I didn’t mean ‘tics’ the way she did, as an involuntary gesture, but more as ‘a certain look’ or gesture that carries a signal. And far from involuntary, it’s deliberate and purposeful.

But I told her “sure”, even though my word was one syllable and hers was six.

I agreed because I don’t want to offend anyone, at least unintentionally, especially if they live with a nasty disease like Tourette’s, and if it’s important to them not to see the word ‘tics’.

I also agreed with something I didn’t really want to do because I’m worn down from the culture wars and their sand-bagging of my language.

As Cathal Kelly wrote in the Globe and Mail on Saturday: “The moral sands are shifting under your literary feet, constantly, inexorably, and a lot of time you aren’t wearing the right brain-shoes for it.”

Thirty years ago, I was speaking with someone from Goodwill Industries. She asked if I knew what her organization does. Of course I did. Back in the 70s, I’d dropped countless bags of used clothing at their depot at Jarvis and Adelaide in Toronto. So I said: “I’ve known Goodwill since it was Crippled Civilians.”

Silence.

She was mortified, which I thought was a little misplaced. After all, she worked for the organization. I was just reminding her of its history. And the fact was, for decades, it was called the Society for Crippled Civilians.

So yes, certain words and phrases fall so far behind the times that they cause instant offence when used today.

But ‘breastfeeding‘? And……wait for it……’women‘?

It seems these words are not only out of date; they must no longer be used in polite company for fear of giving offence, like ‘crippled civilians’.

Last week Brighton and Sussex University Hospitals issued guidelines asking their staff to stop referring to “breastfeeding” and use “chestfeeding” instead.

Henceforth, “breast milk” is to be called one of three other things: “human milk, “breast/chestmilk”, or “milk from the feeding mother or parent.” The Hospital’s guidelines also advise replacing the word “father” with “parent”, “co-parent” or “second biological parent,” and steering away from the word “mother” altogether.

Their suggestion? “Birthing parent.”

While these changes aren’t mandatory, i.e. as a doctor, you won’t get fired for misidentifying the only body part that produces milk, they will appear on the hospital’s website, emails and letters.

Where did this linguistic virus come from? A team of “gender inclusion midwives.”

Their goal was to remind us that there are trans people and people transitioning from women to men who feel excluded and invisible when they hear “mother” or “woman.”

Yes, I’ll give them that.

But for all of us who fear the tyranny of the majority, this is the opposite of that. The vast majority of “people” who use a hospital’s maternity ward are “women.”

How vast? The Times of London said this “is meant to cater to the tiny number of natal females who transition to male socially but not medically and give birth. As of 2017, the UK had two such people.”

Two.

Even when you consider the entire population of 200,000 transgender people in Britain today, they represent just 0.58% of the 34 million British women.

As The Times notes, this is “not merely the tyranny of a minority but the tyranny of a minority of a minority.”

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Meanwhile, in a different part of the universe, Jennifer Trosper, deputy manager for the Perseverance Rover landing on Mars, said: “I worked from my laundry room for the last several months and my kids are in Zoom school and they’ll walk in and then people say they can’t hear me because the washer’s going. This is not the way we would typically design a Mars mission.”

Maxim Gertler-Jaffe

Emmy-nominated Filmmaker // Producer at Lone Wolf Studios

3 年

Both this article and the Times of London article it cites are misleading. Brighton and Sussex University Hospitals expanded the vocabulary available to their staff so that they can use the most appropriate terms when working with trans and non-binary people. The BSUH did not suggest changing the words used for "pregnant women" and "breastfeeding". This is clearly spelled out in their press release supporting the policy (https://www.bsuh.nhs.uk/supporting-inclusive-midwifery-care/), which states: "Maternity services at Brighton and Sussex University Hospitals have broadened the language they use to support midwives providing care for trans and non-binary people who are giving birth. The trust recognises the vast majority of midwifery service users are women and already has language in place women are comfortable with. This is not changing. For example, we will continue to call them pregnant women and talk about breastfeeding... This work does not impact on other maternity services and staff are not being asked to stop using any language relating to women."

Paul Melo

Creating Beautiful, Bold Visuals. Telling unique stories with a penchant for critical thought and worthwhile endeavour.

3 年

A child is fed with a breast not a chest. Breastfeeding is beautiful, natural and necessary. I personally will not play along with this nonsense. I take pride in my regular uncomfortable moments in conversation. I have a 93 year old neighbour. I wait with giddy anticipation when I speak with him for each out of date, politically incorrect anecdote he drops out of pure innocent nostalgia. Never a malicious intent. He has travelled the world on naval ships porting in far off ethnic regions long before everyone had televisions to tell them how and what to think. He has more friends from every walk of life and culture I will ever have, and his language is not the sum of his character, just a product of the times and a comfort in acknowledging their differences and uniqueness. Most often in passing or jest, his observations about my heritage never offend but amuse. I personally will never alter my language because it is sanctioned. I will however treat people with respect as a normal, decent person should. There is an enormous difference.

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