Picking Up the Pieces After Divorce

Roughly half of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce. Most people understand the risks that marriage brings, but no one gets married with the expectation of dealing with divorce. Divorce ranks as one of the most stressful situations anyone can go through. Dealing with a divorce is no small matter. It requires patience and stamina. There are no shortcuts.

That doesn’t mean that the process of getting over a divorce requires a decade. How long it takes is largely up to you. There is a path out of your current pain. Time is an important part of that path.

These tips will help you move on after your divorce:

1. Give yourself time before dating again. How much time you require is an individual decision. But there’s no rush. When you begin dating before you’re ready, not only are you potentially creating additional challenges for yourself, but consider your dates, too! They might be getting more than they bargained for. Take the time you need to heal.

2. Take the opportunity to make over your life. Now might be the perfect time to join a gym, start a new hobby, or travel. When you’re married, you have to accommodate the needs and wishes of another person. You can give yourself more consideration for a change.

* What would you like to change about yourself and your life?

3. Learn from your divorce. What went wrong? What did you learn? What were the good and bad qualities of your partner? What type of person would do you believe would be the best match for you? What mistakes did you make along the way?

* A divorce is painful, but a great learning opportunity. You can have much more confidence in your next relationship if you use what you learn.

4. Forgive. You can’t truly move on until you’ve forgiven your ex-spouse. This may take time. But you’re never really free until you’re able to forgive.

5. Get the support you need. This might take the form of a friend or family member. There are also support groups for the newly divorced. Avoid the mistake of attempting to navigate your healing process alone.

6. Maintain your daily routines. This means to continue to bathe, brush your teeth, and so on each day. Continue to eat healthy meals. Go to bed at your normal time. Keep your normal social outings. It’s easy to fall into a slump and to allow the quality of your life to deteriorate. Some things will change, but many things can stay the same.

7. Avoid making your situation worse. This isn’t the time to overeat, drink excessively, or start using drugs. A rebound relationship also isn’t advised. Get your feet back on the ground and avoid doing anything that can make your challenging circumstances ever harder.

8. Get out of the house. Not only can you keep your previous social schedule, you can consider adding to it. Join a yoga class or a golf league. Create something new that you can enjoy with others. You won’t find any solutions while you’re sitting on the couch, staring out the window.

9. Share your feelings with a divorced friend. It’s important to talk to someone who has had the same experience. Confide in someone that has successfully moved on from divorce.

Divorce is stressful and unsettling. There are almost 900,000 divorces each year in the United States. You’re certainly not alone. Give yourself time to grieve and heal. In time, your life can be even better than it was before. Use this opportunity to reinvent yourself and your life.

Bio

Intuitive Relationship Guide?and Coach??Dr. Veronica Anderson?is the bestselling author of 4 books including?“Get the Respect You Deserve: 7 Secrets to Getting Seen and Heard in Your Job and Relationships.”?Dr. Veronica transitioned from her own private practice as an Eye Surgeon to a Spiritual Guide &?Transformational Coach delivering individual and group programs to help her clients overcome strange, rare and peculiar issues.?Using her skills as intuitive and her signature R.E.S.P.E.C.T Method, Dr. Veronica?guides high-achieving professional women how to make successful career, health and relationship transitions by learning the process to be their true self and be appreciated for that.

Dr. Veronica Anderson began her medical career as an Eye Surgeon?after graduating from Princeton University and Rutgers Medical School (with honors) and now has the distinction of being both a licensed physician and a practicing psychic. Dr. Veronica?is an Integrative Medicine Physician, certified in Functional Medicine and trained in homeopathy.?

In her programs, Dr. Veronica uses her gifts and talents to help people with strange, rare, and peculiar issues who feel like they just haven’t gotten answers or results from?strategies they have tried previously

Dr. Veronica hosted her on podcast and AM radio show for several years and has appeared in national television as well as multiple syndicated radio shows and podcasts. She is?a 3rd Degree Black Belt in Tae Kwon Do who splits her time living?in Bucks County, PA and?Harlem, New York City with her husband and two dogs, Artemis and Apollo.