Perspectives are what make life interesting

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Happiness is often a choice, so choose wisely. When life comes and sweeps you off your feet, you have the choice to remain on the ground where people will coddle you or get up so people will be inspired by you. It’s not easy, but change never is. Complaining makes us complacent. It might make you feel better, but it’ll do so at the cost of doing something to change the situation. Social media is a community, not a one-man showcase of your life. It’s funny, but the less we go to social media to validate and prove ourselves, the better the space becomes for everyone on it.

Differences aren’t a bad thing, similarities are. When that one bothersome person frustrates you to the point of no return, remind yourself that you’re only annoyed at them because they’re different. You like the people most like you in the world, but in reality, being with people just like us never teaches us anything about growth and forgiveness. Differences with others stretch us; similarities comfort us. Compartmentalizing your life is like going to three parties in one night; it sounds like a good idea until you wake up exhausted and bitter the next morning. If your life, hobby, family and passion are all different things, maybe it’s time to consolidate them into one. Then, you won’t suffer from the problems that come with a compartmentalized life.

Love those who are in love and love being in love. Love is something that is stomped on in our culture. We’re either jealous or hating on those who are in love, or we are too cynical about the chances of our relationship lasting. This is contradictory to how love should be treated. Whether you’re in love or not, celebrate it, and don’t reject it. There is grace in being where you are. Though it may not feel like it, there is some hidden blessing in what you’re doing. You just have to go digging for it. The No. 1 cause of death for passion is envy. You get nowhere constantly comparing yourself to other, more successful people. Use that time instead to cultivate your passion into something world-changing.

The best things in life are illogical. So go crazy. Don’t try to make sense of too much. Love, beauty and goodness don’t make absolute sense, but that doesn’t mean we can’t celebrate them. Your loved ones are the best rehab to go to if you’re a workaholic. Sometimes, you need to remind yourself why you work in order to work effectively. Life is sweeter when you celebrate little victories. Did you pay off a tiny debt? Did you finish a project that took you forever? Before diving into the next thing, take a moment to have a little victory party with those you love.

The past only matters in how you redeem it. It doesn’t define you, imprison you or hold you back from anything. Learn to move on and change the circumstances, and life will be more hopeful. Be quick to forgive others, not blame others. Instead of looking to justify ourselves when situations arise, search for the greater peace that could be had. Accept responsibility if that’s what needs to happen, and move on to correct the situation. Fight for the things worth fighting for; that usually excludes many of the debates we have on Facebook. If you believe you could solve a controversy in 140 characters on Twitter, think again. Some debates and controversies just need to be ended rather than prolonged on social media. Instead, pour your time into fighting for things that matter rather than commenting on debates that don’t.

Latch onto hope anywhere you can find it. Be ready to embrace something outside yourself, because when life comes crashing down on you like a tsunami, you’ll need something to bring you back to the surface. For you, this might mean going to church or trusting in the love and comfort of family. But like C.S. Lewis said, “Don’t let your happiness depend on something you may lose.” Make sure your hope is an anchor, not a ship sailing away, and I promise, your perspective on life will be better because of it.

Focus on food as nourishment, enjoyment & fuel, not as numbers, calories, and stress. Forget about the calories, serving size, and stress of whether you can eat that for just a second. Instead, ask yourself if that food is truly going to nourish you and keep you fueled. Swapping your perspective for what’s best for your body instead of what’s best for the scale, can have you lowering your stress hormone cortisol, feeling way less deprived, and leave you making healthier decisions without doing too much else. Asking, “Will this truly nourish me?” instead of “Does this fit in my diet?” can have hugely transformative effects. And in my opinion, if you really wanted something, but it wasn’t exactly nourishing, go ahead and let yourself have a little–because sometimes that’s nourishing for the soul.

Believe that people intrinsically mean good, not bad. Miscommunication is a huge cause of disgruntled relationships. Instead of assuming that your friend, colleague, spouse, or significant other meant something hurtful, talk about it. Come from a kind and curious perspective and frame it as to how their comment made you feel. One time, I felt a girlfriend was very disapproving of my business decisions. She never said it, but I felt it. I finally mustered the courage to bring it up and said something like, “I know this may sound a little funny, but when we talk about business, at times, I don’t know why, but I feel like you don’t approve of what direction I’ve decided to go.” Saying the words was like removing a brick from my chest. We openly talked about it and my negative energy around the issue was gone. Honest open communication is a very powerful thing.

Exercise to feel strong, confident, and motivated, not to burn calories, get skinny, and punish yourself. Living in that space where you exercise to get thin, make up for what you ate, and to burn calories is a sure-fire way to put your body on overdrive. It prevents you from creating a lasting thriving relationship with exercise. Eventually, your circuit will break. Here, you’re coming from a place of hate, instead of love.

Be kind to your body. Listen to your body. To be better at this, every day note 3 things you love about your body. I see a lot self-punishment with overexercising. If you feel this is you, and you’re working out an hour plus each day, cut back, do more things for you, and eat mindfully and clean. You may be surprised to see that the number on the scale goes down, instead of up. More and more exercise doesn’t equate to more and more weight loss.

Think about what you do have, instead of what you don’t have. It’s so easy for us to think about where we’re not. Instead, think about where you are. How far you’ve come. The only person to compete against is yourself. Along these lines, practicing gratitude is a sure-fire way to focus on positives in our life. Research shows that those who practice gratitude have increased feelings of life satisfaction, happiness, optimism, and enthusiasm. Gratitude has also been shown to help strengthen our immune systems, sleep better, have closer and more committed relationships, and reduce anxiety and depression.

Finally, yes I’ll take a side of gratitude by start practicing gratitude by writing 3-5 things down every day that you’re grateful for. Or, get a white board, hang it visibly in your office or home, and write down 3 things you’re grateful for each day. Be present in mind and body, not only in body. How many times have you been on the phone while on the computer and can’t fully recall what the person on the line said? Or, you ate dinner in front of the TV and didn’t even take the time to really taste your food? Or, you grabbed a box of crackers out of the fridge while cooking dinner because you were so starving and mindlessly ate half the box? We’ve all been there in some form or another. Take a moment to check-in with yourself to recenter. What am I doing and whether it is going the right direction? Cheers!