A person with strong heart can't be broken

Some days you wonder how much is too much. How much more heartache can one person handle before you fall to pieces. At what point do you give up and say enough is enough? In the past no matter how much I believed in love or how hard I tried it always seemed to fall apart. I didn’t know what it is or why it happened or how many stupid lessons I still needed to learn, but at some point you get get close to your breaking point.

Do you ever give and give and love and love and wonder why things don’t get better? Do you continually work on yourself but find nothing changing and the only constant is the continual heartbreak that leaves you wondering. How much heartbreak can one person take and still survive? They say, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”, but does it always? Maybe what it’s really doing is killing you little by little. Maybe one person can only take so much before they give up.

I’m running out of fingers to count all the times that I’ve been heartbroken and disappointed. Actually, I probably ran out long ago. Every time you think you have finally met the one, it turns out to be untrue it’s like a stab in the heart and your heart becomes so full of holes that it probably looks like a sprinkler. Every time you invest your energy and your hopes and your dreams in someone and those dreams are squashed it becomes harder and harder to pick yourself back up again.

The feelings you have for the other person don’t have to be long standing or deep or even true, but when they represent something that you’ve always wanted and it is torn away from you and you don’t really know why the pain is heart wrenching and the disappointment piles up one upon the other. I’ve been chewed up and spat out by women who weren’t right for me plenty, so forgive me for being over dramatic with my writings. The depth of the pain that I’ve felt is worn on my sleeve like armor, carefully protecting the heart I used to wear there so freely.

I’m genuinely proud of my ability to have been crushed by love over and over again and still be willing to embark on the possibility of love all over again. It made me brave, not desperate. Sure, I may have been guarded but I was honest about what I wanted and I knew that real love is absolutely worth the risk. I decided to draw a red line. I made a list of red flags, what I will and will not tolerate in a relationship, and what I give - I expect to get back. And then, she came, out of the blue, like a shooting star in the middle of a clear sky night. Like a light at the end of very, very deep tunnel.

She was perfect. She met every expectation. She passed every test. She showed me true love and never stopped loving me. Needless to say, I am one lucky person who met his Twin Flame, which happens very rarely. Just imagine the perfect person for you.. and boom, you get them. All you need is patience, and the ability to see what’s wrong and what’s right for you in life. Don’t give up yet!

You can never break your strong heart so long as it's pumping continuously and that's the reason you are alive and asking this question in first place. It's not broken heart or crap. Its simple life operates with few fundamental rules. When you are a child you are fed with all the idealistic nonsense which is totally out of sync in reality. Due to this flawed conception of reality, you mess up your life. Slowly when realising the reality of life you feel threatened and your disillusion slowly starts to break. Some of them cannot get over the shock and keep in denial others move on play by the rules and enjoys life. It's up to the individual how you play the game.

I loved a girl since I was in 8th grade and currently I am in final year of engineering . For one year we were in a relationship too. But then she told that she doesn’t have feelings for me and we broke up. But still we continued to talk. She always told me that she will never find anyone who will love her as I loved her. Casually she would tell me that if she didn’t find someone she will definitely come to me as I understood her so well and she could share with me everything. And after hearing all this I was very happy and thought maybe she is falling for me.

But then one day, after a year of our break up I came to know that she already had a boyfriend and I was just a back up plan. I felt terrible. Also she had gone into that relationship within a month of our break up. When I asked her she behaved as if there was nothing to tell. I started having anxiety attacks. It continued for 5 months. As the time passed I realized she was not worth my suffering and made peace with my situation. For me love is that feeling which only brings sorrow. Those who truly love never get it in return.

I am going to recommend two things, because they are both immediate and tangible. The first is, make a small commitment to yourself and follow through on it, day after day. If you fail to do so, be understanding and forgiving and begin again. Some examples of small commitments: Drink more water. Walk 20 minutes a day. Write in a journal every day. Make your bed every day. It’s important to start small. The second is, learn everything you can about boundaries. A boundary is the expression of your limits. Its most simple manifestation is “no”. Say no when you don’t want to do something. If you feel resentment, listen. That’s your body telling you that you need a boundary. Voice it. With these two simple steps (simple - not easy), you accomplish two enormous things: the first is, you show yourself day after day that you are someone you can count on. The second is you prove to yourself you have in you someone who will always protect you.

Yourself, Self respect, Self esteem. if you’re familiar with these words, literally you know what is self respect, no matter how deep it is, you’ll keep yourself going and you’ll be fine soon. Those who can’t handle their breakup, feel useless or weak than that person who broke them, we feel low than that person. But by becoming greater than that person, we become stronger and more that the past version of our self. It’s all the process of becoming the better person by breaking and moulding you to be the best version of ourselves.

What really gets broken is the trust and love that the heart(s) held inside it. The very essence that holds the heart(s) together is lost when it realizes the reality of someone we love or someone who loves us isn’t the same anymore, or in the highest degree, isn’t there with us anymore. Sobbing about the heartbreak perennially will yield no good to the person and learning the lessons of what the heartbreak gave is a valuable addition to a person’s Emotional Quotient (EQ) which will make one to be more aware of their shortcomings, both emotionally and mentally.

And healing from a heartbreak as soon as possible is very important because it takes a huge toll on the person(s) life and makes the person to dig a hole which the one can never make out of, and don’t ever do that. Never. I hope the person reading this answer is relieved of their heartbreak if the former is experiencing the latter and I tell “You’re not alone here, and, you don’t have to be alone. You’re going to live a happy life. We are with you.” Cheers!