Permission to Choose?
This question is designed to provoke in a couple of ways. ?First, whose permission do you feel compelled to seek? ?If the answer is anyone other than yourself, this is worth bringing some curiosity to. What does this other entity have that you don't? ?Even if you are part of a family, company, partnership, or business, at no point does letting them choose what's important for you, serve you. Exploring how to align with the other entity after you've given yourself a chance to determine your priorities, is an empowered way to come together. It's wonderful if they've proven trustworthy. Trusting another does not preclude you from trusting yourself.?
The second prompt here is that if you know you're the one granting permission and the answer is anything other than yes…then (without making yourself wrong) what is getting in the way? ?If your inner critical voice is telling you that you can't choose what you think is important because of shoulds, doubts, scare resources, or have tos then you're not alone. ?Sometimes I've experienced these thoughts preemptively preventing me from giving myself permission, because I'm afraid I won't be able to have whatever I determine is important. In other words, saving me from the pain of disappointment. What I have found to be true is that once I give myself permission and then a little space to get clear on what is important, I can see the fears for what they were, a child-like attempt to protect me.?
In the hustle of everyday life, it can be hard to focus on what really matters. However, checking in every so often to make sure your permission is granted can be very inspiring, and help us commit to creating the satisfying and successful life we each desire. ?
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6 个月I dig how thought-provoking this questions is. My initial thought was...of course, I do. But then I went deeper. I think I'm in good shape on the 1st scenario, probably because I'm old and don't seek my self-worth from the opinion of others. But there are situations in your 2nd scenario that pop-up in life that hold us back and force us to de-prioritize ourselves. I'm a big believer in putting on your own oxygen mask in order to more effectively tend to others. Thanks for the reminder.