Performing Under Pressure: Navigating the Demand to Always Be 'ON' as a Black Woman in Corporate
Introduction: Always 'ON,' Always Exhausted
As Black women in corporate spaces, many of us feel the unspoken pressure to perform—always smiling, always chipper, always engaging. It’s as if there’s no room for us to just be. Quiet moments can be mistaken for disengagement, and introspection is sometimes misread as indifference.
For someone like me, who is naturally introverted, this expectation can be overwhelming. Many assume I’m extroverted because of my role as a facilitator, but the truth is, I’ve learned to be extroverted when necessary. It’s a survival skill, not a default setting. After eight hours of leading discussions and being the focal point of engagement, I return home to more responsibilities—family, clients, and life. With no space to decompress, my social battery often runs on empty.
If you feel the same, you’re not alone.
The Weight of Constant Performance
For Black women, this expectation goes beyond personality. It’s tied to deeper systemic challenges. We’re often expected to overdeliver and outperform to be seen as equals, and the emotional labor of doing so can take a toll.
Being "ON" all the time impacts us in many ways:
How This Pressure Shows Up in Corporate Spaces
Mandatory Enthusiasm in Meetings: If you’re not actively speaking or nodding along in every meeting, it can be perceived as disengagement. Silence, even when you’re thoughtfully processing, is often misinterpreted as a lack of contribution.
Expectation to Lead or Participate in Social Events: You’re often “voluntold” to help plan team lunches, birthday celebrations, or after-hours events because you’re seen as the “friendly” one. Saying no might be viewed as being difficult or unsupportive.
Being the Go-To for DEI Initiatives: As one of the few (or only) Black women in the room, you’re expected to contribute to or lead diversity-related efforts, even when it’s not part of your role. This adds extra, unpaid emotional labor to your plate.
Forced Small Talk: There’s an unspoken expectation to always engage in small talk, whether about your weekend, hobbies, or family life. While some may enjoy these conversations, others may find them exhausting or intrusive, especially when it feels like a performance.
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Pressure to Represent “Black Excellence”: You often feel the weight of representing not just yourself but an entire community, knowing that any perceived “misstep” could reinforce harmful stereotypes.
Limited Space to Decompress: Open office layouts and shared spaces make it difficult to find quiet moments to recharge. This is especially challenging for introverts who need solitude to reset.
Encouragement for Black Women in Corporate Spaces
To my fellow Black women navigating corporate environments, I want to remind you: Your quiet moments are not a weakness. Being observant, introspective, or simply needing time to recharge doesn’t make you less valuable. It makes you human.
You are allowed to prioritize your well-being and create spaces for yourself that honor your energy. It’s not only okay to do this—it’s necessary.
Tips for Navigating Spaces That Expect You to Be 'ON'
A Call to Action for Corporate Leaders
It’s time for organizations to recognize the diversity in how employees contribute and engage. Leaders should create environments where quiet strengths are valued alongside vocal contributions. Workplaces must honor the needs of introverts, extroverts, and everyone in between by fostering a culture of understanding and inclusion.
A simple question like “What do you need to thrive?” can go a long way in creating spaces where people feel valued for who they are—not just how much they can perform.
Conclusion: Permission to Just Be
You don’t have to perform every day. You don’t have to be "ON" all the time. Your quiet strength, introspection, and authenticity are valuable.
Let’s continue to support each other, advocate for better workplace environments, and remind ourselves—and each other—that our worth isn’t tied to how well we perform. We deserve spaces that celebrate us, just as we are.
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