Perfectionism: What it is, and how to overcome it.

Perfectionism:?refusal to accept any standard short of perfection ~ Oxford        

We all know that one person, it may even be yourself. The one who is never happy with an outcome; always looking for what could be improved. However, there is a difference between healthy striving for improvement and perfectionism.

Perfectionism comes from a place of not being enough and can be crippling, holding us back from achieving our goals and dreams.

The cause of perfectionism is often deep-rooted. It can result from trauma, abuse, or even growing up in a household where nothing was good enough. Perfectionism is a defence mechanism to protect ourselves from further hurt and pain. Unfortunately, it also prevents us from living our best lives.

So, how can we overcome perfectionism?

1. Recognise that perfectionism is a problem

Once we realise that perfectionism is holding us back, we can start to make changes.

2. Set realistic goals?

When we set unrealistic goals, we are setting ourselves up for failure. By setting realistic goals, we are more likely to achieve them and feel good about ourselves in the process.

3. Self-compassion?

We all make mistakes, it is part of being human. Beating yourself up over every little mistake will only make you feel worse. Give yourself grace and know that you are doing the best you can.

4. Reach out for help?

This might mean therapy, coaching or even reading self-help books. Whatever form it takes, getting help is an important step in overcoming perfectionism.

If you are struggling with perfectionism, know that you are not alone. Take the first step today and start making changes in your life. You deserve to live a life free from the chains of perfectionism.

Reach out if you need support living the life you desire.

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