Perfectionism in Sport is Getting Worse – Here’s Why | The Mental Edge
?? David Charlton???♂?
Supports Ambitious Athletes to Achieve their Goals - Faster | Sports Psychologist | Mental Toughness | Resilience | Podcaster ?? | Blogger ?? | Executive Coach
Perfectionism in young athletes keeps on steadily growing.? And unfortunately, I’m not talking about “healthy” perfectionism where athletes set themselves challenging goals that they work hard to try and attain.? Where they are always striving to be a better footballer, tennis player, golfer, cricketer…
I’m talking about the unhealthy kind of perfectionism where the following 9 signs become evident:?
What then happens to the perfectionist athlete
The perfectionist athlete who falls short ends up feeling a great deal of self-criticism and shame.? They also convince themselves that their self-worth is based on their ability to meet their very high and rigid expectations of themselves and other people. ? This naturally is not a great place to be and, if this is you should raise some alarm bells.
Why is perfectionism so prominent in young athletes?
Some researchers believe there may be a genetic component however many also believe that this is linked to how we are brought up, educated and the environment around us.? Below are 7 reasons why this is often the case where I also highlight some useful solutions.
It is common for some parents, coaches or teachers to sway towards a task orientated approach, lacking in care and warmth.? Falling into the trap of repeating messages that are fixed on getting better, improvement and are performance driven forgetting there is a person behind the athlete. ?
2. Praising achievement?
When the cold person does soften however and offers praise this is often focused on achievement.? Which the warm and loving person can also fall into the trap of doing especially when using social media as they share their pride and look for likes and positive comments.? Here are some examples of comments I’ve spotted on my feeds in the last few weeks from parents and coaches.
“Super proud of this one, who has just finished 5th against some of the best young golfers in the country.”
“Superb performance today with a 4-0 win against the leaders. Keeps us in the hunt.”
“Easter tournament only gone and won it! 8 games played, 6 clean sheets and only 2 goals conceded”
“Not at our best today, but a 3-2 win keeps us in the title race.”
“Following on from his debut last week, he started for the U23s tonight! Played the full game and got another assist! Well done son.”
“She’s only just gone and passed her driving test on her very 1st attempt! Buzzing.”
A better approach would be to focus more on the journey and process posting more about effort, bravery, curiosity, resilience, pride, assertiveness and kindness or other forms of self-expression whilst acknowledging achievements.? For instance:
“A great win today, buoy did our players give it their all, I was especially proud about the positive way they came back from conceding.”
“She may have finished 5th today, but that doesn’t tell the whole picture.? This girl spends 20-30 hours practicing hard each week, as well as training in the gym 3-4 times per week on top of her studies.? Her efforts haven’t been rewarded for a long while until today, it’s caused her lots of despair and tears but she’s kept going.? We’re proud of you.”
“Today we beat the leaders 3-0, I loved how brave our players were on the ball.”
“We may have drawn today, however the sportsmanship and respect shown by both teams was first class.”
3. Club or organisation communications ?
An approach to support a more process driven culture and less emphasis on results and achievement, as some schools and clubs I’ve supported recently have done, is to not talk about results at all in their newsletters and updates and to keep their communication more about developmental goals or the fun side of sport.? ?
4. Rigid rules, structures and controlling environments
Enforcing rigid rules and structures is another great way to breed perfectionism, anxiety and poor problem solvers.? By offering athletes more control over their time and the way that they practice and train can aid their creativity and help them learn from mistakes therefore improving their decision making under pressure.
5. Criticism, punishments and fear
If you’re a coach, parent or teacher who regularly criticises, punishes errors, finds fault in different behaviours or uses fear as a mechanism you aren’t going to help your children, students or athletes.? They’ll likely be more fearful, anxious and indecisive as you’ll regularly activate their sympathetic nervous system which leads to automatic responses in their body such as; speeding up heart rate, increased blood pressure and sweating.? You could try a different approach looking out for strengths, improving relationships and offering constructive criticism in a positive manner.
6. Achievement based rewards
Rewards for achievement is another challenge to navigate, some children I’ve supported have been offered McDonald’s or bottles of prime if their team wins or they perform well. ? They’ve been offered financial rewards for keeping clean sheets too, whereas semi-professional and professional athletes play for money and often get more money based on their performances and achievements.
领英推荐
Difficulties arise in this case especially where young athletes learn that their value rises and falls, in other people’s eyes as they exceed, meet or fall short of expectation levels. ? The relationship between performance, self-worth and value is complex however it is certainly something that all parents, coaches and teachers should be aware of. ?
7. Sport becomes a job
THE MOST RECENT DEMYSTIFYING MENTAL TOUGHNESS PODCAST IS ALSO SET UP TO HELP THE PERFECTIONIST:
Where with my colleague Dr Alessia Bruno we discuss the downsides to perfectionism and how many athletes can get obsessed by their sports, training harder and harder, pushing themselves to the limit.? The result can then be burnout, playing in fear or a lack of enjoyment.?
Enjoy tuning in!
RELEVANT BLOGS TO HELP YOU DEAL BETTER WITH PERFECTIONISM
YOU MAY ALSO WANT TO CHECK OUT THE FOLLOWING ACADEMIC PAPERS, BOOKS, VIDEOS and PODCASTS TO IMPROVE YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF PERFECTIONISM
The Sports Psychology Podcast: Perfectionism in Sports and Life with Dr. Patrick Cohn and Ella McCrystal. Our dangerous obsession with perfectionism is getting worse | Ted Talk with Thomas Curran The Psychology of Perfectionism in Sport, Dance, and Exercise by Andy Hill
SPORT SPECIFIC RESOURCES FROM OUR SPORTS PSYCHOLOGY LIBRARY TO HELP YOU
BUILD YOUR RESILIENCE LEVELS IF YOU PLAY FOOTBALL OR SOCCER
We’ve recently started a regular newsletter with tips and tricks for those interested in the psychology of football or soccer. Feel free to sign up today.??
Supports Ambitious Athletes to Achieve their Goals - Faster | Sports Psychologist | Mental Toughness | Resilience | Podcaster ?? | Blogger ?? | Executive Coach
7 个月Thank you for sharing Simon Millington
I help coach and develop youngsters in cricket, individuals embarking on their careers for the first time along with experienced leaders. I remind them of what drives them forwards with positive purpose & energy each day
7 个月Brilliant article and thoughts on the subject ?? David Charlton???♂?