"People will get sick of me."

"People will get sick of me."

This is one of the beliefs that my unconscious mind has always loved to keep throwing in my path. It's not doing it to harm me. Quite the opposite. It thinks it's protecting me. 

If I believe that people will get sick of me, I'll keep playing small and being less ME. My mind thinks this will mean that I'll keep connection with those around me. That they'll be less likely to leave. That I won't end up alone.

But this is all total bullshit!

I spent more than thirty years of my life playing small and being less ME - and I'll tell you what happened...

?? I lost connection with my SELF

?? I wanted to leave my SELF many times

?? I felt totally alone in so many ways

And when I believed that 'people would get sick of me', then my mind had to make that true. It had to find the evidence to support it. That's how the mind works.

So for most of my life I struggled hugely with friendships and romantic relationships. When they didn't seem to be getting 'sick of me', I sabotaged until they seemed to have no choice but leave. 

And then, over the past few years, I started seeing it all for what it was... simply a disempowering belief that was total crap! 

A belief that I could notice, forgive myself for, and let go.

I started doing the conscious and unconscious work to reprogramme this belief. To release it from my nervous system and invite in something much truer and more empowering...

"The right people love me and are excited to stick around." ??

And now THIS belief is embedded, all the evidence shows it to be true. My amazing husband, family, friends and clients love me being ME. 

But, even more importantly, I bloody love me being ME! ??

It's crazy how one seemingly-small belief can cause so much pain and suffering when it goes unnoticed. 

And it's truly wonderful how much inner freedom and joy can be created by doing the work to let it go.

This deep inner work is the work I do with my clients - but, first and foremost, it's the work I do with my SELF. 

*04/02/21 - I've now got one spot opened up to work with me 1:1 to do this sort of deep mindset work. Reprogramming old patterns and beliefs so that you can let go of the old crap you've been carrying and step forwards on purpose. Message me to chat about whether this spot was meant for you.*