People can't handle what is right with you

In so many words, I think what they're trying to say is “Welcome to Hell”. Hell, is probably what it will feel like dealing with this person. They've already made the decision in their mind that you are the kind of person that will be?overwhelmed?by them. Overwhelmed by what? Who the hell are you to tell me what I can handle? What the hell do you plan on doing while I'm with you? For a long term relationship, that's the worst phrase someone can tell you. For a one night stand, you may be thrilled to hear this. For some people, this phrase is simply a challenge to you, to see if you can rise to the occasion.

It may be a sexual challenge, or it may be a way of them telling you that they think you're not on their level in some aspects. They've looked at how you are, and made the pre-judgment that your style is no match for theirs. Depending on what you want out of the situation, this could be good or bad. If you're just trying to have some quick fun, go for the challenge. If you're trying to settle down in a relationship, a real time experience is happening to you. “You can't handle me” is a very arrogant statement because how does a person really know what you can handle? It seems as if you don't know each other yet, so how can a person make this statement?

It's arrogant, it's a game, and it's mental warfare. If dealing with an arrogant prick doesn't bother you continue on, if it does bother you, leave that half crazy psycho the hell alone. I'm going to throw in my two cents on this one base on having heard it a couple of times in my life. I'm going to guess that the person who said it is a friend for whom you have romantic feelings. By saying "you can't handle me," that person is basically saying, "it's not you, it's me." This person likes you, but not the way you want. Basically, he/she is trying to say, "I don't want to be with you like that, but I don't want to lose you either." He/she may also feel you are innocent and feels that they would corrupt you. It's just my opinion. The two times I heard that phrase, the people who said it were almost dependent on our friendship. They practically 'needed' me as their friend. It was like we were a couple without the sex.

It is an excuse for people who are bad at controlling themselves, had a girl friend like that, she was incredibly clingy and Very Easy to anger and Very violent when angry. She said that to me during a furious argument, she was angry at me for having left my Phone on during the night without texting her(she saw I was online on whatsapp), she taught I was texting some other girl and cheating on her. This person thinks he/she has more experience than you in life, and has been through more difficult things than you, or feels/knows that they have a complicated life/personality/situation or all of the above. It is a warning to not try to get into a friendship, business or romantic relationship because you mat regret it. This person likes you enough to warn you, but not enough to want to change to be closer to you.

OR, rather this person may feel you're trying to control them and they're throwing a defense phrase letting you know that they can handle, be in charge of their own life and your intentions to manipulate/control them are not going to work. I believe it's more #1, because if it was #2 they would've said something like: "you can't control me, you can't manipulate me". It means you’ve discombobulated them so that all the lines of communication they rely on to convey meaning are they strongly feel, obstructed/sabotaged to the point of uselessness. Decoding & untangling your perceived issues either involves more perceptive intelligence then they possess or you are incapable of being introspective enough to see your own faults stimulating this - or both.

I’d say they are stuck in the “more than human/less than human” mindset. 1- Why should you have to handle anyone? 2- Why would you not be able to do it? 3- Why are they supposed to be handled? 4- Why do they think others can’t handle them? It’s an announcement of something extreme both your and their part, which would be cute as foreplay leading to sex, but that’s about it. It means you can’t handle her shit tests. The tests are basically ways to test how manly you are. For example she’ll say “ugh why are all these guys in my DM’s” an insecure person would say “Who? Just Block them. But who tho? Do you text them back? Let me see?” Don’t be that person( I’m speaking from experience) it’ll turn her off and lose attraction for you instantly. What you should do is just change the conversation and brush it off like she didn’t even say it for example “Are you on Instagram a lot? You should follow me.” “What’s the coolest place you’ve been on vacation?” Or “I just deleted and got my peace of mind, Cheers!