Peer Pressure
When we think of “peer pressure” we think about parents being concerned about their children following the example of the “wrong” type of crowd, the use of drugs, underage drinking, and so on. Giving in to peer pressure is very easy to do. It's usually more comfortable than trying to avoid it, because we're afraid of being "different". However, it isn’t just children and teens who succumb to peer pressure. It can affect anyone of any age because we are inherently social in nature and we all want to to be part of a group we admire. And let's face it, no-one likes rejection.
People have a natural tendency to conform; they don’t want to stand out, or they want to be accepted, so they listen to their friends, co-workers, and associates. Unfortunately, people around you don’t always support your goals or don’t have goals of their own. They may put down your aspirations for a variety of reasons. If you’re trying to better yourself, perhaps by going back to college, chances are good that someone is going to make fun of you because they feel threatened by your goals.
It’s unfortunate but true — many people like to make others feel stupid. Putting someone down is somehow easier than building them up. Opinions and recommendations are often given without knowing the facts. Sadly, there are far too many people who don’t like to see others become successful. Everyone wants to feel accepted and, unfortunately, many times we adjust our behavior and attitudes to match those of the majority, giving little consideration to our own feelings. If it doesn’t feel right, then it’s wrong.
Resist making decisions based on what other people do or feel unless it’s something with which you agree. For instance, if you’d rather work in a rural area where most of the jobs are residential, don’t go to work for an electrical contractor who only does commercial work in large cities, merely because “everyone” says you can make more money doing so. You’ll find yourself becoming unhappy and less productive which can have a negative impact on your image and self-esteem.
If you're surrounded by people who influence you negatively, don't look for reasons to justify why you still hang with them. Get in with different groups, associations or clubs. Start keeping company with people who are trying to do and achieve the same things you are. Being with your "tribe" allows you to be authentic, to feel confident, and to have the support of like-minded people.
Assess your own strengths and limitations objectively. Make your decisions and perform your activities based on your own knowledge and ability. If you choose to take someone’s advice and accept their opinions, do so with an open mind. This is what separates the leaders from the followers. A bit of old-time wisdom fits in here very appropriately—“To thine own self be true.” If you do so you usually can’t go wrong!
The above content is extracted from Mike Holt's Leadership Skills textbook.
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Mike Holt is an author, businessman, educator, speaker, publisher and National Electrical Code? expert. He has written hundreds of electrical training books and articles, founded three successful businesses, and has taught thousands of electrical code seminars across the US and internationally. His company, Mike Holt Enterprises, has been serving the electrical industry for over 40 years, creating and publishing books, DVDs, online training and curriculum support for electrical trainers, students, organizations, and electrical professionals.
Mike has devoted his career to studying and understanding the National Electrical Code and finding the easiest, most direct way to share that knowledge with others. He has taught over 1,000 classes on over 40 different electrical-related subjects to tens of thousands of students. His knowledge of the subject matter, coupled with his dynamic and animated teaching style, has made him sought after from companies like Generac, IAEI, IBEW, ICBO, NECA, and Fortune 500 companies such as IBM, Boeing, Motorola, and AT&T. He is a contributing Editor for Electrical Construction and Maintenance Magazine (EC&M) and formerly Construction Editor to Electrical Design and Installation Magazine (EDI). His articles have been seen in CEE News, Electrical Contractor (EC) International Association of Electrical Inspectors (IAEI News), The Electrical Distributor (TED) and Power Quality Magazine (PQ).