Patience in a moment of anger will save us hundred days of sorrow

Have you ever wondered, why we evolved impatience and anger? All negative emotions and behavior evolved, because they provide an endless stream of dominant behavioral displays, which play a key role in the selection of mates. It’s better than fighting and killing one another. We live in a materialistic world, because showing dominance and accumulating wealth raises our status. Individuals with high status are able to attract high status mates, which improves the odds of survival, of their offspring.

While just for attempting to raise our status, the brain rewards us. If it didn’t, then we would never attempt anything. Google brain chemical rewards. We don’t do anything, without being rewarded. We give a bunch of idiots, the power to make us miserable, with their hurtful words and hurtful actions. The idiots don’t even know why they’re doing it. Subconsciously, they’re trying to raise their status, by lowering yours.

And all of the above, is part of our primitive, 1.0 human operating system. If you learn to control/manage your emotions, and can refrain from making dominant displays, then you will upgrade to 2.0. By being able to think, rather than react, you will have many more options, in which to respond to the world. Your status will rise above 99% of the world’s population, and your brain will reward you. You will become smarter, more productive, and happier. If your subconscious is receptive to this, then it will automatically, gradually reduce the amount of chemical reward, for your negative emotions, and behavior.

Factors which slow the process: Testosterone, stress, and conflict. More - The brain rewards our memories of fear, pain, shame, and humiliation. If it didn’t, then we would shun such thoughts. If we never remembered them, then we would make many more bad choices. Teach yourself to make a Thalamic Pause. Van Vogt refers to this system as the cortical-thalamic pause. Instead of reacting immediately and often blindly to a situation, Null-A teaches us to stop and consider our total reaction and options before responding. Because the cortico-thalamic pause is a system check and a consistency check at and between multiple levels. Thalamus/Thalamic is here used as a shorthand for the lower brain functions, associated with feelings, sensing, pain, pleasure, instincts, bodily functions, etc. This action deflects the anger reaction.

Our ongoing anger is a sign of some deeper issues. Is there some unresolved issues in your life that may need to be addresses? Perhaps it would be helpful to meet with a therapist and see if they can get to the root of your struggle with anger. They also should be able to give you some strategies for staying more in control of yourself and responding patiently and calmly. For instance, maybe trying journaling as a way to release some tension. Or find a support group where you can talk through what you’re feeling. Some people even find exercise is a good way to let off some steam. But remember that anger in itself is not always bad-just how we express it.

We believe that if the anger is abusive to you or someone else than you need to find the skills to deal with it. Anger is a teacher. It is like the cover of an onion. The outer part of the onion is your anger. As you start to deal with your anger. other feelings will start to emerge that are harder to deal with. This will slowly becomes a time of joy as you see the real you and how special you truly are. You’ll start to respect yourself and begin to set boundaries with other people and request for your needs to be met.

And also controlling anger is not as easy as it is said to be. One needs to practice it to come to a level from where one at least think before doing anything or passing comments when angry. To become patient or to increase your tolerance you have to work on the foundation of your habits or thoughts. Our actions are result of our thoughts and order to change the output (actions) one must work on input (thoughts). If thoughts are aligned, automatically you will get output in accordance with the same alignment. That is why smart people think what they ‘want to do’ and not what they ‘do not want to do’ while many of us most of the times think what we do not want to happen and guess what, we also see results which we do not want.

If you want to increase the patience level, just let yourself know that everyone is different and they will have their own set of rules or their own way of living their life, just because they do not meet your expectations or do not do things as per your wish it does not mean you have to get irritated and loose your patience. No, stop, think can you be someone who can please everyone all the time, then how can you expect it from others.

Now, just realise this fact that talking about anger it is such a waste emotion that you will be at the losing end all the time due to this. So, how you stop being angry? Answer is simple you have to widen your tolerance zone as much as possible and you already know how to do it, just by accepting others the way they are and not creating many expectations. It is just one life, let us spend that in loving others, healing others and being tolerant. Stay blessed! #kishoreshintre #possessedbywritingspirit