Past mistakes are meant to guide you

Let us accept the fact that, you can not change anything about the past. What's done is done. All you can do is accept what is and learn. Sometimes if I think about something that I did that may have come across the wrong way, hurt someone or disappointed someone I care(d) about I will apologize for things I may not have been able to recognize at that point in time. And that's how I forgive or accept and let go. Everyone among us has done their part of mistakes. No one is perfect enough to never do mistakes. The thing is that first of all one should learn lessons from past mistakes. Mistakes are not to regret, they are to learn something greater and applying the lesson.

Of course just change the perspective you see your past and the picture in your mind ll be clearer and sound. “A person who does mistakes and learn from them can only progress in life” The things that I learnt from my mistakes:- Never ever choose a miser as your roommate. The one who waves at you and does small talk may not necessarily be a friend. There is a big difference between a colleague and a friend. Maintain a budget. You won’t turn bankrupt, 10 days prior to the end of month. Don’t make future promises on the basis of your present circumstances. The people who promised everlasting togetherness today may disappear tomorrow in thin air. So, spend time alone and make peace with solitude. One day, it might be the only option left to you.

However sometimes, you can’t change the mistakes you made in the past. At least, you can’t change the outcome of those mistakes. You’re kind of stuck with them. The only thing you can do that will help rectify those mistakes is to learn from them. There are instances, which might allow you to get a do-over. That’s pretty rare, though. If you learn from past mistakes, then you assure yourself that the mistake won’t be something you learn twice. Learning something twice is usually harder the second time around. If you can take it as a learning tool, a mistake can be turned into a positive experience that can build and add to your growth as a person.

Though I’ve changed some past mistakes (a whole lot of them) simply by maintaining my commitment to living in the truth. By continuing to only live in the truth, I only need to keep track of one version of reality. It isn’t the most beautiful, or pretty reality, but it’s real. This investment brings returns like no other. It’s given me a peace of mind that can’t be found any other way.

Deceiving yourself, and others, is living a lie. That may have a good set of reasoning behind it, and you might think it’s necessary to get something that you think you want, but eventually that house of cards takes a tumble and your left with just a memory of what it was and everything is reduced to a pile of debris. If you can live openly and transparently, you build with more stability. It may take longer, and you may not even reach the heights you felt you deserved to reach, but at least you know where things stand and you’re confident in what that foundation can withstand.

Too many times, our past rears it’s head. People remember lies. People also remember truths. That sense of knowing is one of the most rewarding parts of staying alive. As long as you can remain real then life is real. You’ll find that people tend to believe in something when they know there are no doubts about it. That sounds pretty obvious but it used to be a mystery to me. I used to believe that life was fun when there were so many secrets. Then, one day I realized I didn’t trust anything because I had so many secret little folds and untruths. I assumed everyone else did as I did and nothing about anything could really be seen as something I could depend on as being real. That was a frightening feeling. A lost feeling that what a waste of time I’d let my life become.

So, I made a commitment to honesty. I knew and still know some people will decide not to approve of things about me. It is something I decided to accept long ago. If I’m not living life in a way that someone else approves of, so be it. It’s still going to happen, exactly as I present it, and though some find it to be a delusion, and consider it impaired thinking, they haven’t known my mind. I do know my mind. It’s impaired only in the way that water impairs thirst, or food impairs hunger. It provides a change from a consuming feeling which blocks out all others until it’s addressed. Once my body is no longer thirsty, or hungry, it can begin to enjoy other aspects of what it feels like to be alive.

I realize that my honest life is only as honest as I am able to make it. Eventually, it comes down to being honest with myself. I realize I have been honest only to a degree. I’ have been honest about a part of myself which I could no longer accept the shame that never would take root. I was taught by the culture that taught me to carry that shame. That it goes hand-in-hand. It doesn’t. I never could quite hate myself enough to live that lie. For who?

I’m not going through that awkward existence where I’m not free to be who I know is alive in my heart. Regarding fantasy, If my heart finds a way to feel some magic in this world then I’m forgiving myself as I walk through that door. I’ve always believed in magic. It’s exactly the one thing I know I can always use a little bit more of. So, no apologies if my imagination goes places without me holding it’s hand. It knows right from wrong. There’s a balance that exists in life and we all have our own ship to sail.

My performance can easily reflect that I am dumb or an idiot. Do I regret it? Not even a pinch. Those events are precious experiences. Their lessons I will use all life. They have made me calm and indifferent to miseries. They have made my life interesting and relevant. I feel stronger as a human being. Could success give me all this? No. If today I am writing on diverse topics for years, it's all because of adverse experiences. Why should I feel regret for something which has given me so much? You want to change the past, which is impossible. When you crave for something physically impossible, you ought to feel hopeless and regretful. Wise people use their past as the textbook of life, extract relevant lessons from bad experience and use them to create a bright future. They understand that experiences are experiences, they aren't good not bad. Cheers!