Part3: What are the triggers running your relationship?

Part3: What are the triggers running your relationship?

We all have ruined a lot of relationship lately with various root causes, as parties didn’t match the same criteria or characteristics or even the pace.

As one partner intend initiating many moves which aren’t in place as they are inappropriate to be exposed within this phase of the relationship, hence negative triggers arise from the other party and lead to avoidance, and losing interest by the other partner.

Here are eight triggers are running relationships:

1.      Pushy vs Patience

2.      Hesitation vs fairness

3.      Availability vs neglecting

4.      Critical VS Emotional

5.      Flexibility vs boldness

6.      Raising awareness vs overprotection

7.      Reality vs fakeness

8.      Respect vs Power

Pushy vs Patience

Being pushy specially in the very first beginning of the relationship is a mess, and it will drive your partner to lose interest to engage more, and the good impressions and the glow will fade out by a thread of pushy rushed actions along.

Being too patient with your partner will change your role instead of being a party you will be a follower who aren’t in charge for any decisions and don’t have any valid opinions along, and by time you will underestimate yourself by your weak self-esteem and personality.

The best way to deal with your partner is to be moderate with your feelings exposure in order to feel compassionate, find joy and happiness, hence your partner will invest more time to dig deeper to know you more, match your emotions pace, and be more compatible.

Hesitation vs firmness  

Being hesitant while dealing with your partner tends to suspicious calls by your partner to keep on the relationship, he/she will feel skeptical to take the relationship to the next phase, as you won’t stand or be committed to the life flows, and challenges.

Being too firm at your business or work environment will be only efficient while dealing with slackers and outliers, however it isn’t the best way to treat your partner, as the firmer you are the more secrets kept by the other party, and by time you will feel irritated as your partner is too good to be true, then you will feel suspicious, lose interest, hence toxicity will take over the relationship.

Being convincing and get convinced by your partner opinion and provide him/her room to express their opinions, thoughts, and feelings will be way better.

If you need to change your partner perception you need to give him/her to run conversation, and it’s better to listen as much as you interact and express yourself.

Availability vs neglecting

Being all the time available to your partner will lead to many problems to come across and many bargaining and nagging for irrational problems and issues won’t take place if you are away for healthy period of time daily at your profession or running your business.

And instead to being attracted to you, he/she will find any room to be away to avoid any negative vibes and hustle along the day.

being away or neglecting your partner will lead to the worst scenarios which you can imagine, as your partner will get used to enjoy his/her time alone, without being contained by you and you won’t be his/her first priority to dedicate any time for you.

Then you will be exposed to many negative consequences, as your partner reached unstable state to keep the relationship respect, and honesty as he/she has many needs didn’t get fulfilled and will find many ways to fulfill it.

 Being available without being a nagger, and backing up your partner when needed will be the best resolution, and he/she will feel that you are reliable, trustworthy, and real backbone at most of the time.

Critical VS Emotional

Critical thinking and analyzing facts, then make decisions accordingly is the best way to plan and run your business.

Being critical and applying binary methods with your partner won’t keep the good intentions for you and him/her.

Your partner might need to vent out, negotiate many matters without even thinking regardless the vitality of the topic, his/her calls on the table.

Being emotional all the way without relying on ground base, and rational thoughts and triggers won’t hit the nail or grab the attention of your partner, as he/she will experience shameless moments and will avoid exposing his inner feelings with you as it might drive you to negative vibes and interactions.

Being the one who feel, analyze by considering your partner feelings and emotional triggers is way better than criticizing him/her.

Remember that we are different at our personality, patterns, interactions, perceptions, manners, and handling situations.

Flexibility vs boldness

Being too flexible while dealing with your partner’s wants, and calls will lead to many unpredicted popups which all you have to fulfill to make them thrilled, he/she will be like the spoiled kid who always nag to gain what he wants without considering what he wants exactly or any of your commitments.

Being bold with strange intruders is ok, but with your partner it will lead to many slacking beyond by your partner to avoid expressing any updates as you restrain him/her with list of burdens that he/she should be aligned to or he/she will be punished.

Being open and convincing will be better to keep being attractive, and your partner will feel that you are adding value and looking his/her benefits instead of looking to control him/her.

Raising awareness vs overprotection

Raising your partner awareness to things he/she doesn’t know is impressive at a certain point, however being MR/MRS perfect who always knows how it works it will be one of the overacting forms that irritate most of us.

As your partner needs to deal with his lover not a parent who has parental ground rules which you should follow to be eligible for the relationship.

Overprotection and diagnostic therapies delivery to your partner won’t be the best solution to keep your relationship in good terms, by time your partner experience overprotection from your side he/she will act as he/she is the sweet talker who obeys the rules with all percussions instead of being real.

Being thoughtful and convincing with valid words is way better than exaggerating your awareness and protections to have always access to his/her real thoughts, and feelings.

Reality vs fakeness

What you are is what made your partner attracted to you, if you tried to be other one to be accepted you won’t keep overacting and at the end he/she won’t be happy to keep you at his/her life.

Avoid showing off and being a fake superhero who has fake powers.

Being real is vital to handle relationship and life challenges, but bolded real one won’t work as your partner will feel that you are rude and aggressive one who doesn’t care about anything unless you need it.

Avoid handling the relationship with the perspective of “me, myself and I.”

Being real and simple is the best way to your partners’ heart.

Remember we all analyze, listen, see, and plan and compare our partners’ version to others so be aware of what you expose.

Respect vs Power

Earning your partner’s respect is way better than being picky to his weakness points and mistakes to restrain him/her to follow and obey your orders, because by time he/she will lose interest in you, won’t be attached any further, and will feel sickness to get his/her life back before you even exist.

Conclusion:

Remember that you picked your partner because you are similar so keep the same version or a better one.

Your readiness and being humble is vital to keep the harmony instead of being the confusion.

Watch out the timing of exposing emotions and triggers is important to avoid ruining your breakthrough of your relationship.

Finally, be yourself.

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