Part 2: How to overcome relationships drawbacks?

What is the pure and healthy relationship?

It’s the feeling of being comfy and loved by your partner without being engaged to a reason unless it’s a personal one.

People always tend to love others because the feel the same based on; their norms, perception, appearance, standard of living, culture, characteristics, loyalty level, manners, mindsets, race, customs, sexual, and religion orientations.

If you are the same you will accept and overcome any challenges and struggles along the way, at that point both partners will feel compassionate, enthusiastic to treat and interact like lovers, without noticing any showstoppers along their way.

Any relationship without similarity from the above attributes, and acceptance from both parties, will be a consuming relationship and tend to lose/win from partner to another.

And always one partner will play for his/her own without noticing the other’s essentialities to keep on, and it would be the worst nightmare and decision he/she has ever made.

What is the friendship?

Is when both friend or more treat each with respect, and love like brothers and sisters no matter the current events or circumstances or age, usually they are all for one and one for all, acting as real backbone to each.

Most of us have friends to be better than their family members as they love, and serve each other’s blindly even if one party is traumatized or have any psychosis.

They will always stand on their ground, and back them up and all what they need to be on the first place without counting any blessings or looking for any benefits in return, and vice versa.

What is the toxic friendships?

People who know each other for a reason to gain benefits from each in different forms like; Money, exposure, Fame, attention, life opportunities, or in appropriate deeds and needs.

They cooperate and treat each for specific reason, once one party changed or don’t have any to offer on table they fade out.

Here are two forms of love which we all have throughout our life path:

Seasonal love:

Is the love exposed by others for a reason, like when follower’s love celebrities when they are trendy, aggressor’s love when they can’t stop achievement storm of someone, hater’s love inorder to come closer to gain or to avoid confusion from others.

The only healthy seasonal love is when coworkers expose it, after achievements come across from one of them as he/she earned their respect and by his/her noticed milestones, and awards toward success.

Unconditional love:

Is the love directed from others without any valid reason, like; how kids love their parents, and how pets love their owners, without relying on circumstances, standard of living, or even appearance.

As one party is a care giver to the other one, and committed to him/her regardless any changes or challenges which life will grab along the way.

Why could someone have stuck on toxic relationship for a long time?

Most of us were or will be in toxic relationships, and unless being contained by the other partner.

He/she will be consumed and feel impressed, and confused, and they can’t move on or take any steps ahead for good life or change.??

Here are some of the common struggles which people face while keeping on toxic relationship

Fear of change:

Fear to live alone or other trustworthy partner as the individual used to be happy in the past, and fear their present and can’t even manifest it with different foresight.

However, they didn’t enjoy the same level of happiness or satisfaction like before.

Loyalty trap:

Partner who stick and stand for each other because the feel it mandatory based on invalid reasons, and commitments which could be settled even after separation.

As one partner can’t see any good opportunities for him/her along the way in the future, and the other tends to be an outlier who doesn’t provide the same initial loyalty anymore.

Attachment issues:?

Some partners are attached to the other partner because they are totally dependent on them and it’s one of the mental illness disorders, as the dependable partner can’t eat, drive, enjoy, initiate anything without the presence of the other party.

They are like the kids that feel dependent on their mother. Always dependent on his/her partner, and looking for orders to obey, and plans without taking any responsibilities along.

Relapsing and rebounds:

When partners stay engaged even while being skeptical and confused as one fear life after breaking up as he/she doesn’t remember how to handle life challenges alone, and excel life alone.

So they hate their current but can’t accept any changes, consequence while moving on.

Relationship toxicity vortex:

it’s one of the most confusing issues could any human being face, get manipulated with, as one partner always put fake blames on the table without relying to any valid reasons, and the victim feels that he is the mistaken one, even if he/she didn’t start to tackle or have any intention as well.?

Intuitions Denials:

as one person is denying the other actions and recations, even if it’s not appropriate or wouldn't be accepted by others.

Like; a woman who still engaged with a guy who got many fairs along the way, and she is still keeping on as she felt that she is the reason beyond all what he did, and she got her low self-esteem, and downgraded herself without noticing.

And she/he keeps standing on the relationship as he/she stand for partner’s version which doesn’t exist anymore.

The victim always loves the feeling of being guilty and drama queen/king as they love the feeling of sorrow. and deny their intuitions and accept to continue like it never happened.

Worthless memories and emotions:

Every relationship has its own glow since the start which may last for one partner and fader for the other.

The victim will accept because of the history of many good things in the past which he/she don’t feel or enjoy anymore.

Here are some steps to move on and overcome toxic relationships:

-List all losses as far as time, exposure, peace of mind, characteristics, and life opportunities.

-Scale the severity of each from 1 to 10

-See which part will Wight down

Remember that no one will help you to change, and gain your fruitful results.

And anything could change even the past its always your call.

Conclusion:

your partner should be you source of enlightenment, and inspiration and the closest person who add value to your life, not the source of your struggles.

Your partner should be always your backbone who back you up even in your hard times.