As a parent, I am doing everything for my child’s well-being. However, I am struggling to understand the difference between connection and control?

As a parent, I strive to do everything for my child’s well-being, ensuring they don’t suffer in the future. However, many parents struggle to understand the difference between connection and control. If I had to answer this question in one sentence, I’d say it lies in the parent’s energy. This is the essence of conscious parenting—how aware we are of our own thoughts and emotions, and this awareness comes with practice.

To simplify, I categorize emotions into two categories: Fear and Love. Control stems from fear, while connection comes from love—this is the core difference. We often believe we know what’s best for our child, but we fail to consider the energy with which we convey our message. Children are extremely sensitive to energy.

When we approach them from a place of control or fear, they are likely to resist, which is why it’s essential to "connect before correct."

As adults, we store all emotions in our bodies. To understand the difference between fear and love, we need to identify the feelings we are experiencing in our bodies. It’s about shifting our focus from the outside—our child’s behavior—to the inside—what am I feeling?.

We must feel our feelings to heal them. Only by focusing on our body and heart can we better understand ourselves and, in turn, connect with and guide our children in the best possible way.

If you have any questions or insights please feel free to share with me.

Thank you.