The Paradox of Obedience

In the quiet corridors of a local school, a poster caught my eye. Among all the fundamental Values that the school had listed in the poster in bold letters,

the word "OBEIDIENCE" struck me and I stood still looking at the poster.

A seemingly innocuous display, it triggered a cascade of thoughts about the implications of teaching ‘obedience’ as a virtue, especially to impressionable young minds.

The concept of obedience isn't inherently negative. It's essential for maintaining order, ensuring safety, compliance and navigating social structures. Frequently, Obedience often serves the ego of parents and teachers by providing them with a sense of control and validation, albeit at the potential expense of stifling a child's autonomy and individuality.

However, when obedience is elevated to the status of a primary value, it warrants closer examination.

Consider a child raised to prioritize obedience above all else. Consider a child who is raised to listen and then follow. They learn early on that their

worth is tied to their ability to comply with the wishes of authority figures – parents, teachers, elders. While this may result in a well-behaved child who follows rules diligently, what does it mean for their future?

As this child matures into adulthood, the ramifications become clearer. Obedience without question can breed a culture of conformity thereby stifling innovation, creativity, and critical thinking. In the workplace, individuals conditioned to unquestioningly follow orders may struggle to challenge the status quo or offer fresh perspectives, hindering organizational growth and progress. Moreover, unquestioning obedience can erode personal autonomy and self- confidence. Individuals raised to prioritize obedience may find it difficult to assert themselves, express their opinions, challenge ideas and thoughts, or make decisions independently. They become accustomed to seeking external validation, relying on others to dictate their actions and beliefs.

This raises an important question: How do we strike a balance between obedience and empowerment? How can we teach children to respect authority while also encouraging them to think critically, assert themselves, and pursue their own interests?

The answer lies in fostering an environment that values both obedience and autonomy. Educators and parents play a crucial role in creating spaces where children feel safe to question, express themselves, and explore their individuality. Encouraging curiosity, problem-solving, and respectful dissent empowers children to become confident, independent thinkers capable of navigating the complexities of the world around them.

Ultimately, the value of obedience lies not in blind compliance, but in understanding when to follow rules and when to challenge them. By instilling this nuanced understanding in our children, we equip them with the tools they need to thrive in a rapidly evolving society.

As I reflect on that poster in the school hallway, I cannot help but hope for a future where obedience is tempered with critical thinking; where compliance is balanced with autonomy; and where our children are empowered to become the leaders, innovators, and independent thinkers of tomorrow.

As the ink dries on the poster proclaiming obedience, let us remember that in nurturing obedience, we must also nurture the seeds of autonomy and critical thinking, for it is in this delicate balance that true growth and progress lie.

May the spirit of childhood curiosity prevail, teaching our children to question fearlessly and embrace the unknown.

• Original Article by Capt. Shoukat Mukherjee, Author, Founder & CEO of The Naval Connection. You can reach out to Shoukat with your feedback at '[email protected]'