The Paradox of Nurturing Others
Ernest R. Nisperos
Group Product Manager at Hypergiant, PSPO Certified, Retired Combat Veteran, Humanitarian, Team Builder, Empathetic Leader, Passionate Husband, Loving Father, Grateful Son, God Fearing American
Introduction For those that identify as nurturers and connectors this short read is for you. I'm a connector to the letter, but I also do my fair share of being a nurturer in the process of actively listening. In these roles, I meet with strangers or friends of a friend regularly. I especially aim to be a beacon of strength for friends and loved ones grappling with mental health challenges. We become their confidant, their pillar, and their ear, and guide if needed, through turbulent times. Yet, I find myself not practicing what I preach and the result is—the neglect of my own mental wellness.
Is this you? Does this sound familiar? Do you recognize this dilemma in your trust circle? Well, you're not alone.
The Paradox of Care It’s a paradox that many face, particularly those who have served others selflessly, like veterans who’ve weathered the storms of conflict and strife, first responders, and crisis action professionals and volunteers. The instinct to prioritize the well-being of comrades over personal needs is a testament to their strength. However, this admirable trait can cast a shadow on their own mental health.
Recognizing the Signs The signs of self-neglect can be subtle—a lingering fatigue, a sense of detachment, or a silent resignation that one’s own wellness is a lesser priority. It’s crucial to recognize these signals and understand that self-care isn’t selfish; it’s necessary. Its exhausting riding everyone else's emotional rollercoasters, and just like the real rollercoasters, you need time to get your feet back under you in between rides.
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The Ripple Effect of Self-Care When we tend to our mental wellness, we’re not only fortifying ourselves but also enhancing our capacity to support others. It’s akin to the safety instructions on an airplane—secure your oxygen mask before assisting others. By ensuring our mental reservoir is replenished, we can offer more meaningful and sustained support to those around us.
Strategies for Balanced Wellness
Supporting others while ignoring your own mental wellness is a path to burnout. It’s essential to strike a balance, to be as compassionate to yourself as you are to others. Remember, caring for your mental health is not just about you—it’s about maintaining the strength to be there for those who need you most.
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