Painful emotions can become a prison

My heart breaks for all who suffer because of the choices made by alcoholics and drug abusers. The suffering extends far beyond the suffering experienced by the individual who made the choice, it includes havoc experienced by family and friends.

I see the pain inflicted by the person who made the choice, and their chosen path . . . I also understand it is not their fault. People choose that path because they are experiencing painful feelings, so painful they need to escape, to drown, or numb the pain.?

It is not their fault they weren’t taught effective methods for managing feelings. Parents were never taught, teachers were never taught—and we absorb what they learned. They become our lessons.?

It is time to stop this painful cycle. It is time to teach children how to face their most painful feelings. Imagine a world where there is no substance abuse or suicide because everyone has effective tools for managing emotions.?

My life experiences taught me the importance of my message. I had a deep connection with a homeless man because he and I shared a childhood experience. We grew up in different families, yet we both watched our fathers hold a knife to our mothers’ throats. My mother lived because of the bravery of my older sister. His mother died. This young man escaped the pain by drinking. Our conversation deeply touched him; I was the first to tell him it was not his fault. I gave him tools for managing his emotions. A month or so later, I ran into him again. He was sober, he was making contributions to the world.

I can help a mother see how her reactiveness feeds into the disharmony of her family, and in a one-hour conversation, she was able to shift her perspectives.?

Because of the adversity I experienced in my life, I have invaluable tools which I share with anyone who needs them. I embed the tools into my childrens’ stories; I give away the tools in every podcast appearance; I write about the tools in my blog.?

I do this because I have a deep love for humanity. I care so much about children, I have a burning desire for them to thrive.

Do you know of anyone who chose alcohol or drugs as a method to escape emotional pain? Whether it be job stress, emotional pain due to loss, or emotional abuse at the hands of a loved one??

If you see yourself here, know . . . it is not your fault.?

If you are ready to stop the madness, you can choose a life that supports you . . .

If you have tried everything and still don’t know how to step out of the prison of alcoholism or drug abuse . . .

If you are ready to implement tools that will change your life . . .

Or, if you are a family member suffering because of someone else’s choices . . .

I can support your desire to change. Click the link in the comments below for a free session, so you can discover how effective the tools can be, and how you can enjoy a better quality of life.