Owning it

After my latest Love letter "LinkedIn has changed" I had a beautiful discussion with a friend about the differences of showcasing your work and showing off... When you think about it, it can be a fine line - sometimes the truth is in the eye of the beholder... and let's not even bring imposter syndrome into it, otherwise it gets really complicated.

Sometimes you look at a post and you see comments being made that support the person sharing the story, other times you feel it is more about the person commenting.

Then I thought, that judgement mostly says more about the person judging than the one being judged - so, I can continue to overthink and analyse what's going on in the world outside of me... ooooor I can stand up and own it. One thing is for sure: Hiding behind all of the above is not serving anybody!

So, I'm owning it:

I have turned my adversity into a global movement and made it my mission to heal the world from grief. 5 years ago I was happily married with 2 kids, running my own coaching business and my husband and I did pretty much everything together... until he did not return from a business trip.

Rob died at 45, at the peak of his life and health - completely unexpected - from a brain aneurysm. He was "simply unplugged" from our lives.

I had two choices: step up or fall apart.

That's how simple I saw it back then.

I stepped up. Every day. I chose.

We always have the choice how we respond to what life hast to offer.

I decided to share my story, in the hope that it would give others hope. I wanted them to know that there is a different way through grief. That all emotions can exist simultaneously. That it is not an "either happy or sad" scenario. And most of all, that being happy did not mean I wasn't grieving my husband.

Contrary to what we have often been led to believe, we do not have to show how much we loved someone by how deeply we grieve, we can also do that by choosing happiness.

Bear with me. I know how crazy this sounds...

Allow me to explain.

Our entire life together was all about Love and connection. Even the last phone call we had the night before Rob died, he shared a story about Love with me. Our last words ever spoken to each other were an "I love you".

In previous conversations about life, we had promised each other that if anything was ever to happen to either of us, the other one would create the happiest life possible for the boys. Of course we thought, that was all theory and that nothing would ever happen to either of us. Yet life had different plans. And I stuck to the plan we had for the "what if".

I turned towards happiness. This is when I learned that all emotions can exist simultaneously. Grief, happiness, Love, sadness, joy - and everything in between.

Then our story ranked in the top 100 of Australia and I knew I had something the world needed. The "how to". How do you manage to be happy amidst the fear that your heart is tearing apart and you are finding it hard to even breathe?

Let me share it with you - simply message me & we'll chat.

I am looking forward to holding space for you.

Thank you for reading & sharing!

With Love,

Marie x