Overconfidence Is Not Your Color.
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Overconfidence Is Not Your Color.

Hi! My name is Parissa. This is "Modern Badass: A Field Guide", where?Modern Badasses?can feel seen, understood and valued. And, it's also a place for others to crack the code on the Modern Badasses in their lives (and maybe learn some badassery themselves). Want this in your inbox 2x/month? Hit the “subscribe” button above!

Last February, I wrote an article called "Self Doubt Does Nothing For Your Complexion" and I firmly believe what I wrote then still rings true today. When we argue for our limitations, they become ours.

I also believe it's true that overconfidence is not anyone's color. Here are a few things I've noticed about overconfident Badasses in my self-styled Modern Badass Anthropology specialty:

  • They mask self-doubt with overconfidence.
  • Being right is often confused with being influential.
  • They don't always understand that the further they advance in a career, their ability to engage others becomes more important than specific technical expertise.
  • They forget that people have to feel the skin they have in the game to participate 100%. It's not sufficient to merely tell them what their skin in the game is.
  • It's hard to understand that the "being" of a leader is significantly more important than the "doing" of a leader.
  • They're viewed as two-dimensional, almost like a cardboard cutout, instead of being seen for their humanity.


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Be both a maverick and a mortal.

Badass, it's p?o?s?s?i?b?l?e? necessary for your success to be both a change agent and the person who is the first to admit to being scared. Those are not diametrically opposed. Confidence is not a requirement for being a visionary, courage is.

You are more believable and relatable as a leader, let alone as a human, when you:

  • are conscious of those around you;
  • take time to read the room;
  • are humble enough to ask for what you need; and/or
  • are humble enough to ask for feedback on your assumptions.

Want to go next level? Of course, you do. To really dial up your relatability and believability, share your heart. Badasses can treat their inherent sensitivity like it's a dirty secret. Share where you're the most tender.

It's easy to believe that you can't maverick when you show your soft underbelly. The truth is that you're a better maverick when you show your soft underbelly.

Ready to be a better maverick?

I'm kicking off?Inconceivable Influence, a Modern Badass mastermind, in September. I'm inviting you to join the folks who've already enrolled.

It's natural to be curious and to want to learn more. Below is a glimpse of what you'll experience.

Book time?and I'll share more with you 1:1. Also, you can hop on over to my YouTube channel and see recordings of recent LinkedIn Lives (here?and?here) that also give a glimpse of the experience.

If you're wondering...

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Celebrating your soft underbelly,

Parissa

P.S. I'd love to work with you, Badass.?Book time?to talk about?Inconceivable Influence?or any of the following options that may intrigue you.

  1. What?Sparks?You??Let's talk if you're ready to channel your edge and power. but you're unsure as to how to start. Let's have a conversation so that we can identify your blocks and get you back on the badassery road.
  2. What's Your?Vision??I'll design a Sixense Vision a half-day workshop?just for you. We'll talk about your past, and your present to design a strategy to craft your future. It also includes a?Hogan Assessment?and debrief.
  3. Make Your?Next?Bold Move.?Retain me as your advisor and coach. My Modern Badass clients love working with me 1:1 because I am an objective thinking partner and strategist who champions (and challenges) them as they create their futures. I don't hold anything back and I speak truth to power with power.

Elina Teboul

Author of Feminine Intelligence | Keynote Speaker | Conscious Leadership Expert | Driving Business Success with Purpose and Social Impact| Board Advisor Earth Law Center

1 年

Many people come to me for "executive presence" and "confidence" coaching and I always point to the power of authenticity and vulnerability. Soft isn't weak and can be strategic too.

Steve Swavely, Ph.D., CCP

Author of “Ignite Your Leadership: The Power of Neuropsychology to Optimize Team Performance"| Technology Gurus and Engineering Experts: Lead Your Team to OUTSTANDING Results/Build a Legacy| The Technology Leadership Guy

1 年

Great article - and all spot on points, Parissa! I especially like the one about “being” vs. “doing”.

Roya Behnia

Chief Legal Officer | ESG Leader | Corporate Affairs Executive | Board Member

1 年

Spot on - especially the insistence on being right…and always vocalizing it.

CHESTER SWANSON SR.

Realtor Associate @ Next Trend Realty LLC | HAR REALTOR, IRS Tax Preparer

1 年

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