Overcoming Your Inner Critic ??

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I polled LinkedIn?last week...

"What's the main thing holding you back from feeling great?"

The #1 answer by a long shot??Mindset.

That level of awareness fired me up! ??

Because it all?starts with how we think about ourselves.

Confidence, belief, self-love...

And our?Inner Critic?is typically the first line of defense preventing us from creating a bulletproof mindset.

If we're not on our own team, how can we?expect to feel great?

When your inner critic is running the show, he...

• Expresses self-doubt
• Needs external validation
• Feels angry for no reason
• Says you can never change
• Constantly second guesses you
• Makes you feel like an imposter
• Tries to convince you that you're not enough
• Uses hindsight to unfairly say "I told you so."
• Has a wall up preventing you from deeper relationships

He gets in the way of experiencing?true confidence?in yourself.

He prevents you from doing the things you actually want in life.

He stops you from feeling great.

First, know that?it's totally normal?to have negative thoughts pop up.

You can't control which thoughts pop up, only how you?respond to them (and this takes?a lot of practice).

Just as fighting a heckler yelling at you for bombing your bit won't help.

Your power doesn't come from?resisting or 'beating'?the critic.

Instead, it comes from?accepting?it.

That doesn't mean you have to agree with him or believe everything he's saying.

Just listen, hear him out, and respectfully?tell him to f*ck off.

See, things like...

"I'm not enough, I'll never change, I'm going to be found out,?Told you it wouldn't work."

Those aren't truths.

Those are stories you've made up about yourself and rationalized over time with what's happened in your life.

But they aren't true.

And you're doing the best you can every day.

Look, your inner critic?is a jerk. There's no other way to say it.

His job is to?be right, play it safe, and keep you out of harm's way.

Don't worry about trying to stop him from speaking his mind, because he's going to keep doing his thing.

"Great, Tim. So what do I do?"

It starts with awareness.

Pay attention when that voice speaks, acknowledge it, and let him say his 2 cents.

Then?consciously decide to believe it or not.

That's in your power. That's your right.

THIS is where I love using?journaling.

I'll write down those negative thought tracks and then?TAKE HIS SIDE.

I'll write?why those thoughts?might be true after all.

Then...

I'll write?against all of his points and?why he's not seeing the whole picture.

Am I really a failure, Critic?

Or did that one person just not want to work with me. What about the other 20 that did?

Am I really never going to change?

What about the last 12 months? Funny how quickly you've forgotten where we were not long ago.

What you can do is choose to listen?and then tell him to sit in the corner while you live the life you want.

Growth lies on the other side of discomfort and you'll have to?do something you've never done?in order to feel the way you've never felt.

You then have?to?take action?and?challenge the narrative?of your inner critic.

???Determine?your life's values. Start with 3.?(ex deep friendships, health, adventure).

????Set a goal?aligned with each value.

????What do you?need to learn or do?in order to achieve that goal?

????Plan the?smallest daily action?possible to help you learn what you need to.

By taking action, you're?reprogramming yourself to believe in YOU.

When you show up and show love to yourself every day,?you prove to yourself?that you give a shit.

That belief slowly morphs into real, palpable confidence.

Confidence?so strong that it drowns out the critics.

Tim ??

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