Overcoming jealousy and being obsessed with oneself.
The feeling of being jealous is a very natural process. But allowing it to dominate our mind can lead to serious consequences and restrict us to focus on our life and pushing it toward right direction. Here what might be helpful to you.
The root cause behind this is because of someone in our life, maybe our own parents, friends, our ex partner anyone. They maybe comparing ourselves with someone else. Constantly being told stuffs like that forces us to take that mindset and then start feeling insecure. We start doubting our self esteem. This low self esteem make us question our own capabilities. Even if we got supportive parents/partners, our low self esteem make us feel miserable and compare ourself to others, even we maybe at better position than them.
Eliminating envy.
Envy arises out of jealousy. When we look at other people's life and start wondering how could they've the things that we want and I cannot have, we feel envious about it. But instead of making this feeling our weakness, we need to use this as a fuel to push ourselves. "If they can have it, why can't I?" Just because someone has something before us, doesn't mean we can't ever have that.
If today I see someone more attractive than me, carrying herself more confidently than me, having the amazing wardrobe collection, rather than just feeling sick of it, I would come back and focus on the way to improve myself, learning new skills, coming up different ways to earn my own money so that I can fulfill my wish on my own terms should be my priority.
Eliminating jealousy.
At the end of the day, everyone is jealous of something or someone. But the people whom you see happy and secure and radiating a amazing contagious energy that makes you feel insecure is because they choose to reflect what they're having in their i.e., their abundance.
Create an alter ego. Its about maximizing your confidence. Imagine the most confident and unbeatable personality of you and step into that energy when you start doubting yourself, when you compare yourself to other personality - which is what we say "Fake it until you make it."
The thing is beauty, personality and aura are subjective. One may see you and don't find anything attractive and that's OK while one may find you as the most compelling personality they've ever met. Everyone has own perspective. But if someone don't like a particular thing about you and finds it in someone else and then try to reflect that on you, is the time when you need to do something about it. People will try to put you down and what you need to do is focus on yourself. invest in yourself - meditate, workout, eat better, read, walk & move. Do anything you like but don't sit idol. Just because someone having something doesn't mean you will want to swap your life with them. In turn, you maybe handled with all the suffering that they have which might be worse than yours.
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Eliminating FOMO.
This happens when you compare your authentic life with someone else's filtered instagram posts. Better to unfollow, mute and block those who set unacceptable beauty standards or are just useless to you. Even if you know someone in their real life, you can never figure out what they're going through or what they're actually suffering from before going to bed. But will they post that? People always post their happier phase. Right? So how can you just find some random content of random person and yourself to that? That's senseless.
Affirmations.
Affirmations will make your subconscious mind focus on what you actually want to achieve. Imagine yourself living your life by visualizing it in your mind and repeat affirmations to yourself with a positive mindset.
Say,
This are some affirmations one may use.
Tried sharing my views and things I actually implement. Please do share your thoughts as well.