Overcoming Imposter Syndrome: Embrace Your Inner Strength
Michaela Morari
Senior Solution Consultant @Appian Corporation with expertise in consulting and coaching
Imposter Syndrome—it's that nagging feeling that despite all your achievements, you don’t quite belong. You might think, "I'm not good enough," "I just got lucky," or "Soon, everyone will realize I’m a fraud." It’s a struggle that transcends career stages, affecting everyone from students to seasoned professionals.?
This is something I’ve battled with for much of my career. For years, I dismissed my achievements as mere luck or timing, convinced that I didn’t deserve the success I had earned.?
With self awareness and practice I learned to silence that voice and embrace my strengths over the time.
Here’s how I overcame Imposter Syndrome and began to truly believe in myself.
Recognizing the Problem
The turning point came when I started noticing a pattern in my thoughts and behavior. Despite consistently meeting or exceeding expectations, I always felt I wasn’t doing enough. This constant self-doubt was exhausting and started to affect my well-being. Recognizing this as Imposter Syndrome was the first step in reclaiming my confidence.
Giving a funny name to the inner critic
Giving a funny name to your inner critic can be a great strategy! It helps to distance yourself from the negative thoughts and makes it easier to deal with them with a sense of humor. I called mine Gina, as it reminds me of funny moments and it makes me smile.
Reframing My Mindset
Once I acknowledged the issue, I realized I needed to change how I viewed myself and my achievements. One of the most effective strategies I adopted was reframing my mindset. I began challenging Gina and her negative thoughts as soon as they arose. Instead of attributing my successes to external factors, I started recognizing my hard work and the skills that contributed to my accomplishments.
For instance, when I successfully led a project to completion, instead of thinking, "I got lucky," I would consciously remind myself, "I managed that project effectively because of my experience and dedication." This simple shift in thinking gradually helped me build a more positive self-image.
Embracing My Achievements
Another significant step was learning to celebrate my achievements. I started keeping a journal where I recorded every success, big or small. This practice served as a tangible reminder of my growth and progress. Whenever I felt the pangs of self-doubt, I would revisit my journal and reflect on how far I’d come.
In doing so, I learned to take pride in my work and stopped brushing off compliments or accolades. I realized that acknowledging my successes wasn’t boasting—it was an essential part of building my confidence and recognizing my worth.
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Seeking Support and Feedback
One of the most impactful things I did was to open up to friends and mentors about my feelings of inadequacy. To my surprise, many of them admitted to having experienced similar feelings at some point in their careers. Their stories reassured me that I wasn’t alone in this struggle.
More importantly, they provided me with valuable feedback that helped me see myself from a different perspective. Hearing them talk about my strengths and contributions helped counteract the negative self-talk that had become so ingrained in my mind.
Setting Realistic Expectations
As a perfectionist, I often set impossibly high standards for myself, which only fueled my Imposter Syndrome. Over time, I learned to set more realistic expectations and goals. I broke down large tasks into manageable steps and allowed myself to learn and grow at my own pace.
I also began to accept that making mistakes is a natural part of the learning process. Instead of fearing failure, I started viewing it as an opportunity for growth. This shift in mindset allowed me to approach challenges with a more positive and constructive attitude.
Practicing Self-Compassion
Finally, one of the most important lessons I’ve learned is to practice self-compassion. I realized that I was often my harshest critic, holding myself to standards that I wouldn’t dream of imposing on others. Learning to treat myself with kindness and understanding has been crucial in overcoming Imposter Syndrome.
Now, when I feel those familiar doubts creeping in, I remind myself that it’s okay to feel uncertain sometimes. I acknowledge my feelings without judgment and then gently refocus on my strengths and achievements. This practice has helped me develop a more balanced and healthy self-perception.
Moving Forward with Confidence
Overcoming Imposter Syndrome has been a journey of self-discovery and growth. If you’re struggling with Imposter Syndrome, know that you’re not alone. It’s a common experience, but it doesn’t have to define you. By acknowledging your feelings, reframing your mindset, and seeking support, you can begin to reclaim your confidence and embrace your true potential. Remember, you’ve earned your place, and you have every right to be where you are.
Conclusion
My battle with Imposter Syndrome has taught me invaluable lessons about self-worth, resilience, and the power of a positive mindset. While the journey isn’t over, I now have the tools to navigate it with confidence. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: you are not an imposter—you are a capable, deserving individual with much to offer. Trust in yourself, celebrate your achievements, and continue to move forward with courage.