Overcoming Fear (Fear is not a sin!)

Xenophobia, fear of the unknown, is it really the biggest fear or at least one of the most feared one in the devil’s book. Is fear necessary evil or is it something that stops us from being what truly we are capable of, there is various kind of fear available to be chosen from Extinction, we fear that if we cease to exist, that will happen because we want to know what happens next. The story which we have lived with ends with us closing our eyes and we all know that is the end. The fear of missing out on that information is something we fear the most these days. Secondly, it is the fear of getting hurt, it could be from anything, emotions, physical damage to our body, losing someone important. It makes us in becoming more cautious in life. Trying to control everything, think of a girl who got molested in childhood by an adult, and was not able to confront that person, will she ever have the confidence to confront anything which allows anyone to question her pride when she becomes an adult. She will always try to avoid things that are in any way related to her past, be it a deep meaningful relationship, trust issues with strangers, not being able to come out in one and express herself, because she fears that someone might look at her and they will know, it is like there is the mark on her body which can be used for identification of her scars.

The third fear could be losing control over your surroundings, or your way of life, breaking your routine, somehow I suffer from that. I just hate changes, maybe that is the reason I am still in touch with my ex because I need her to define my existence. I am not a fan of change, I want to do things in rhythm, it should be consistent, and pace should be constant or cyclic in nature so that it is easier for me to predict the next move. I have a habit of creating a safety net around me and living within, but just like that frog who couldn’t feel the change in temperature of the water it was sitting in, I might get into a situation that might be beyond repair.

Silent treatment, ?for some people cutting off someone, is really easy and they can switch easily from being interested in, then being completely alien to your emotions. It hurts the most because then you start having self-doubt, it causes confidence going down, denial. It also has a by-product which is fear of disappointing someone important life and once stuck with this, you feel that you are worthless and you should anything and everything possible in life to make the person present in your life stay with you, talk to you and give you approvals. It is a well-known fact that the person caring less in the relationship holds the upper hand, and with past experience to haunt, one falls in the circles of pity.

But all these and many more are things which came along with the drawbacks of society and human weakness. The fear of the unknown is our most primitive fear, it was there when our understanding wasn’t much developed, we were living out in open with the full force of nature falling upon us on day to day basis. Humans didn’t know about darkness or night, started fearing it, maybe it was necessary too. There were animals superior to us in skills to hunt at night and to safeguard us we started hiding in the night. Fear of rain, we thought someone up above is angry and that is why they are punishing us by throwing water at us, we didn’t have an understanding of nature. Fear of being alone pushed us to stay together in groups, and then those groups led us to society eventually. Society is something we should be worried about, everything wrong about the world we see right now is the deep-rooted effect of wrongdoings of society or things they allowed to happen under influence of someone smarter at that time. Man always keeps blaming others for the faults they made, everyone has their own devil, but we might realize one day that we all are devils in someone else’s life.?

The one way around ending this fear instilled in us by society is by changing the things right from it starts the cycle, but the problem with this logic is the point of reference of the start in the cycle. Fear is not a sin but is the tool that helps in making people commit sins with proper thinking.??