Overcome Your Fear of Success with Content-Free Mind Therapy
Enda Quealy
The Perfectionist's Edge - Turning obsessive, compulsive, addictive perfectionism into your unstoppable competitive advantage | Hundreds of Client Transformations | Schedule a Compatibility Call with me ????
Do you TRULY embrace success?
I mean, do you EASILY envision yourself with health, wealth, amazing relationships and other abundances?
If not, and in in relation to your deepest desires, does the concept 'fear of success' mean anything to you?
Because if you find yourself achieving only small, fleeting successes, but the great things you deserve always seem just out of reach, you may be the victim of your fear of success.
Your fear of success may be tough to identify and understand because the causes are frequently hidden from conscious awareness. Your fear may be lurking in your subconscious and you may never even discover that this challenge exists within you, without some real probing.
Yet, this fear can cause you to sabotage your pursuit of your most cherished dreams.
So, how do you find out if your actions are motivated by fear of success?
Let's find out...
Think of a goal that you’d like to achieve. Then, take 20-30 minutes and answer the following question: “What will happen if I succeed?” Write down everything you can think of – both good and bad consequences of achieving your goal.
It's important to take at least 20 minutes to answer the question. Your early answers are likely to be superficial. So keep writing for at least 20 minutes. Put down everything that comes to mind. Nothing is too silly or too small. If after 20 minutes, you're still getting good stuff, then keep on going...
Say your goal is to make £250,000 this year. You might include answers like these on your list:
- I’ll be able to pay all my bills.
- I can buy a new car.
- I can go on holidays.
- I'll have to pay a lot of tax.
- My brother will want a loan.
- I don't know what to do with the money after I've got it.
- People will treat me differently.
- I should get a new house. But where would I live?
- My partner will try to spend it all.
- I'll probably just lose it or invest it incorrectly.
In your excitement, you might quickly write down some of the things you’ve always wanted to buy because once you have the money, you can. But then, as you delve further into all your feelings about achieving your goal, some of the not-so-positive consequences of your achievement appear on your page.
Some of these consequences may reveal things you fear happening if you really achieved your goal.
This is because goals are never completely free of fear. Achievement always involves change, and all change involves some apprehension.
You might truly desire to be successful, but if the feelings of fear due to the changes outweigh the positive feelings in your mind, progress will be slow and challenging.
How to Eliminate Your Fear of Success
If you can make yourself aware of your apprehensions, you then have the opportunity to attack each of them and eliminate them or at least minimise them so you can make progress.
Looking directly at these fears is very powerful, because fears that are not acknowledged tend to grow stronger.
And fears that are examined tend to be minimised, which will help you to take aggressive action towards the completion of a goal.
Ultimately, if you look closely at your fears, you’ll see that the perceived side-effects are what often seem scariest when pursuing goals.
So before you give up on your plans, ask yourself: 'What would happen if I was truly successful?'
And tackle your fears head-on so you can move closer towards achieving your dreams today!
Better still, if you work on a subconscious level, you'll find you can quickly and easily dissolve your fears or even, realise they weren’t real in the first place...
I can help you with that... Content Free Therapy is a way of working to resolve client issues that doesn't even require knowledge of the issue.
That's right, I don't need to know what the issue is or how you believe it started. It maybe something buried so deep you don't even know it's there.
But the good news is, you don't need to know what it is...
In fact, it can be to my advantage if you don't tell me your version of events – because anything you say is already run through your cognitive (conscious) filters.
These filters include opinion, bias, pride, ego, embarrassment and even false memory. So anything you tell me is a distortion of actual or perceived events.
And if we carried out work based on these distortions, it would likely to lead to a negative outcome for you and a frustrating outcome for me.
As such, bypassing these cognitive influences and dealing with the root cause held in the subconscious mind, frees you from the issue through releasing what the deeper mind is holding onto.
So it is important to understand that Content Free Therapy is NOT 'change work'.
And I am NOT trying to modify a behaviour. Modifying behaviours is at best a short term remedy.
Because with the real problem still implanted in the deeper mind, either the initial presenting issue will return... or a new issue will in time replace it.
Does this make sense to you? If you're curious, why don't you try a couple of my Mind Therapy Audios to start releasing unhelpful fears - www.insighttimer.com/enda
And after that, if you're interested in exploring things further, message me and we can chat to see if my services are a fit for you.
I’ve noticed there’s a very particular profile of who does best with my program, and I can tell you in a pretty short dialogue whether you fit or not.
If you do, we can set up an initial Zoom conversation and get you started in the program ASAP.
Until then, all the best, Enda.